Don’t force someone to keep you in their life
Sometimes, the truth is staring you in the face but you just can’t accept it. Your relationship has been dead for a long time. Your partner never reciprocates the love and things you say to them. It’s like they’re just looking for a reason to leave but you still hold on. You hold on to them as tightly as you can. You hope and pray that they’ll start feeling those emotions again. You ignore all the warning signs. But for how long?
If someone doesn’t want to be with you, nothing you say or do will ever change their mind. Stop asking them to stay. Stop making it harder for both of you. And stop putting yourself through this torture.
People change and you can’t blame them for it
People’s emotions, thoughts and personalities keep changing with time. It’s natural and it happens to everyone. And sometimes, these changes are so drastic that you stop relating to the people around you, including your partner. Your interests don’t match anymore. You don’t find the same things funny. And you still love them for all the memories and love you shared once but you know in your heart that this relationship just doesn’t feel right anymore.
In a situation like this, you can’t blame anyone and you have to understand what’s better for both of you- to just go your separate ways.
Relationships require a lot of effort
No relationship is effortlessly perfect. You need to compromise, sometimes. You need to learn to put someone else’s needs above yours. You need to put in a lot of time. And you need to give in everything you have to make it as perfect as you always imagined.
You need to learn how to forgive
Some people equate 'forgiveness' with being 'weak'. That’s not true. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone deserves a second chance. If you’re going to break up the minute your partner does something wrong, then there’s no point in starting that relationship in the first place.
Forgiving your partner means you trust them enough not to do it again. It means that you hold the relationship higher than whatever mistake they made. And it means you’re strong enough to let go of your anger and move on. *Continue reading to next page*