“The devil doesn't come dressed in a red cape and pointy horns. He comes as everything you've ever wished for.”
― Tucker Max
Abusers are not always the evil monsters that we perceive them to be. They don’t always slap you on the face when you say or do something they don’t like. And you don’t always feel pure hatred towards them. No, there’s an equal chance that the abusers in your life are the people who are most important to you, the people you love unconditionally, and the people you believe are your true family or friends.
These abusers are cunning. They manipulate you in ways that you’re not even able to comprehend until it’s too late, until you’re too involved to actually leave, and until you start to drown in your own despair.
If you feel like you’ve been through the following confusing situations and felt like it was just love, then maybe it’s time for a re-evaluation of your relationship:
1. Justifying every wrong action with an “I just love you too much”
Does this explanation sound familiar? Do you hear this every time your partner gets uncontrollably jealous and insecure and ends up doing something stupid? Like the time they called up all of your friends just to tell them to stay away from you? Or the time they ordered you to dress up in exactly the way they approve? Or the time they asked you to choose between them and a certain friend who they’ve always had a problem with for no reason at all?
If your partner can’t trust and respect you enough to wear what you want to or meet the people you like, then what good is this kind of love? *Continue reading on next page*