“You consider yourself better than everyone.”
Never give wrong notions to your partner. You can never really know what someone’s thinking or feeling at what moment, so keep your assumptions to yourself, as said by Becky Whetstone, a marriage and family therapist in Little Rock, Arkansas.
“These statements are aggravating because your spouse knows that what you are accusing them of is not true,” she said. “What you are saying suggests you do not think very highly of your S.O. It is a double dose of pain in one sentence.” Such lines make you come off as spiteful and conceited, believe it or not.
“Do I look pretty?”
‘Questions about weight or changes in looks are the “oldest grenades in the marriage script,”’ said Robyn Wahlgast, a dating and relationship coach for women. You marry someone when they were all young and beautiful but then, time and age came into the mix like frosting on a cake – quick and sudden and silent – so is it their fault that you should criticize them for becoming this way?
What you have to keep in mind here is that beauty fades, personality does not. And it was the person’s heart and behavior etc. that made you fall for them hard enough to end up being with them, is it not? Therefore, do not overlook the fact that their physical beauty is just transitory.
“I think you’ve put on some weight.”
Blunt, negative remarks to your spouse about his or her appearance are out of line. If you notice that your partner is gaining weight, be constructive about it and help them in the process of getting back in shape and being healthy again, instead of being extremely critical about them and making them fall into depression. *Continue reading on next page*