4. Maintain a strong rapport
You need to be a person who makes their partner believe that they understand them. A strong rapport is very important in healthy relationships, the comfortable silence that I talk about a lot is also a part of this. If you make a mistake and it hurts your partner, make sure you let them know that you understand why they're hurt and why you're sorry for making them feel that way. Here's an example from my own life:
So I overslept a little too much one day and I was supposed to meet my girlfriend and her friends for a hang out she had been planning for weeks, so I showed up very late. I knew how hurt she was because of my tardiness and she still said "it's okay". So I openly told her, I told her it was completely my fault, I told her it's not easy to arrange a hang out with eleven different people who live at different parts of the city and it's definitely not easy to arrange everything, I told her I understand her pain and I apologized. The smile that was on her face after I said all of those things was just priceless, because she knew I know what she felt, and achieving that state of mind is very difficult but also very rewarding. It's all about being selfless and knowing how your actions affect others and owning up to those actions.
3. Know how and when to reconnect
Strong couples always come out of fights stronger than ever, they don't let fights and arguments create any gaps or distances between each other. The key is to remember exactly why you love them so much, even if your mind is telling you to hate them during an argument, fight the need to keep being angry and just think of all the good times and happy moments, this always works for me when I'm having an argument with my girlfriend. We recently had sort of a big fight, it went on for a good half hour, then we both went to sleep (or tried to).
It was pretty obvious that I wasn't going to sleep when I know she's sad and she knows I'm sad too, so after like ten minutes, I called her up. She was crying, she knew the argument would end up harming us to we told each other how much we loved each other and forgot the fight. It's that simple. Do NOT let arguments (no matter how big or small) create any distance between you two, fix issues quickly and know when to reconnect. Don't always wait for the other person to start talking first, do it yourself, if you know them and you trust them completely, you probably know how much pain they're in simply by knowing how much pain you're in. - Continue reading on next page