These things are not so “harmless” after all!
The gender wars have yet to subside and there will always be a fair amount of irreconcilable differences between men and women. Yes we can learn to love each other and coexist despite our differences, but the differences will still be there and there’s no avoiding them. Men and women have tendencies to take different perspectives on situations and issues as a result of their upbringing and that’s perfectly normal.
A lot of times, conflict arises out of miscommunication. There are just countless instances when men think they’re saying one thing, but women end up hearing something entirely different. Here are just a few examples of “harmless” things that boys should stop telling their girlfriends.
1. “Woah, just chill!”
In the midst of a heated argument, there is a high probability that at least one of you will blow-up. When it’s the lady who goes off, gentlemen, refrain from telling them to relax or chill. That will just ignite a whole new level of destruction that you don’t want to be on the receiving end of. When you tell ladies to relax, no matter how sincere you are, to them, it just sounds like you’re not taking them seriously.
While to you, a simple “whatever” might mean that you’ve given up and that you concede to their point. A “whatever” to your girlfriend might mean that you’re not giving any importance to the discussion that you’re having. It might come across that you don’t value your discussions more than she does and that will end up causing more damage to your relationship.
3. “It’s not a big deal.”
It may not be a big deal to you, but saying this out loud can spell doom for you in the long run. If she’s upset about something, then it’s obviously very important to her, and when you dismiss her, then it makes her feel like she’s not important to you. Don’t dismiss her quirks and queries because it’s important to her that you find her thoughts important as well. – Continue reading on the next page