10 Lies People in Bad Relationships Tell Themselves

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It can get very draining having to work through a bad relationship. Being in a toxic relationship can take a lot out of people emotionally. You constantly find yourself having to work at something that’s supposed to come easily. More importantly, you constantly lie to yourself.

It can get very draining having to work through a bad relationship. Being in a toxic relationship can take a lot out of people emotionally. You constantly find yourself having to work at something that’s supposed to come easily. You’re too proud to admit defeat and you still try your best to work at the relationship because you feel compelled to. Perhaps maybe sometimes, we’re too scared to face the repercussions of a break up. Maybe you’re just uncomfortable with conflict in general and you don’t want to have to initiate any difficult discussions.

You should know that forcing a relationship to work even when it really doesn’t is unfair to both you and your partner. You both deserve better people as partners to enrich your lives in love and relationships. When you find yourself caught in a bad relationship, just end things swiftly. Don’t prolong the agony by succumbing to lies and delusions. Here are the top 10 lies people in bad relationships tell themselves:

1. “Our relationship isn’t doomed, I can still fix things.”

This is one of the most common lies people in bad relationships tell themselves. Yes, relationships will require effort for them to work. However, you should also be familiar with the phrase “beating a dead horse.” Don’t be that person who’s still trying to work at a relationship that’s so clearly doomed. You need to heed the signs from the universe to move on when the time is right. Don’t prolong the agony of a breakup by trying to fix an irreparable object.

2. “Arguments are normal in relationships, right?”

Yes. Disagreements can occur. Yes. Arguments happen. Conflict is inevitable. However, when you’re caught in an endless loop of recycled arguments, then maybe it’s time to reevaluate your relationship. You’re probably never going to find a middle ground. You have to come to terms that your wavelengths will never jive and your differences are just irreconcilable. If you can’t push past your perpetual state of argumentation, then your relationship is really doomed.

3. “My partner can’t live without me.”

No. Don’t use that as an excuse. Your partner will be fine. And even if they won’t, that shouldn’t be any of your concern. You also have a life of your own that you deserve to live. The both of you together just isn’t a right mixture. You’re only doing yourselves more harm by delaying the inevitable. Learn to be strong and go your separate ways. Find other people who you can grow together in love with. - Continue reading on the next page