Some issues are not worth fighting for
At times, you end up in bigger fights over small issues. Do not involve your ego in your arguments and you should know it’s not important to fight over every other matter and impose your dominance or point of view. You have to figure out what issue is important and which issue should be ignored to maintain the peace of your life. Trust me, all you want is a peaceful and smooth relationship with the love of your life and it’s absolutely okay to avoid insignificant issues. Isn’t it?
Provide a dose of pleasure
You know that the environment around you and your partner has a huge impact on your relationship. So why not make it cozy and comfortable? A negative or tensed atmosphere can turn a minor disagreement into a huge fight in a couple of seconds. Let’s say if you are at a place where there is no privacy or has a lot of hustle and bustle, you will more likely to experience a drastic fight in such a crowded place. In such a situation use your brain and get your hand on something that can distract and calm your nerves, like a glass of your favorite drink?
Or a chocolate with all its sweetness can work like a magic and can help you getting a better manage the disagreement in a better way. And come on, you don’t want to get into a fight in front of everyone, do you? It’s always better to discuss the differences in private with calm environment as well as a cool temper.
Think from your partner’s perspective
Let’s face it, you always generalize things and associate them with your partner’s traits like, if he didn’t do the dishes, you’ll be like he is a mean guy and he never helps me in the kitchen. Now that’s really mean and selfish of you. It will damage your relationship in the long-term. Now do something that’s really hard and almost impossible. Put yourself in your partner’s shoe, think from his/her point of view and try to understand their perspective.
May be he didn’t do the dishes because he had a hectic and busy day at his work place and he really needs to take some rest. Obviously he can have a rough day more often, just don’t generalize it and associate it with other things. Try to understand and manage things in a polite and easy way for the sake of your relationship and its success. I’m sure that is not going to be hard because your love is stronger than your little issues.
Know you position
It always takes two opposite point or views and two different approaches and perspective to pick a fight or land into a disagreement. Frankly speaking we do get blind to our flaws and fault and hold the next person responsible of all the trouble. Here in such a situation all you have to do is to know yourself, your stance and your point of view. Don’t get blind to your faults, you can be the own who is at the wrong side.
Don’t be ashamed or egoistic to accept your mistakes. Be more precise and accept it if it’s you who is wrong in the entire episode. Also, while you are counting till 10 when you are extremely angry, during this time think about the entire situation and focus on the shortcomings and your behavior. You ought not to hurt your partner with your harsh words or gestures.
Anger management technique
Psychology has got many ways to help us in our daily life. Marital psychologists suggest anger management technique if you are the one who is short-tempered in your relationship. Whenever you feel angry at your partner, don’t get mad them, follow the advice and try anger management technique. Trust me it works like a magic. All you have to do is to change your position when you are angry. For example, you got angry while sitting, stand up.
If you are feeling that angry feeling while standing than sit down. It is also recommended to change the location, like moving out of the room into the fresh air or taking a walk to soothe the anger. Also, drink water and calm your nerves for your own good. Your anger is your biggest enemy, it hits and destroys you and your loved ones like a tornado.
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