10 reasons your second serious relationship is better than your first

Yousra Nasir Posted 3 years ago
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They say love can be sweeter the second time around.

They say love can be sweeter the second time around. Could they possibly have it right? It falls to reason that it just may, because even though you may possibly have been hurt immeasurably in your first relationship, that also means that you have learnt things the hard way. And it is only when we experience trying times that we fully appreciate the wealth of knowledge that such circumstances bring.

So even if your first relationship was a cacophony of drama as bad as the Kardashians, you can now say that you have at least, if nothing else, gained an understanding of how to eschew said drama, and steer clear of all sources of it.

Whether your relationship ended on a bitter note or with an entente cordiale the likes of which would put France to shame, you would now have learnt how to approach simple matters pertaining to courtship. So, here are 10 reasons why your first relationship will not only provide you with insight, but also enable your second relationship to surpass the first.

10. Mistakes taught you the lesson they ought to

Mistakes are instructive. Sure, they can feel painful and frustrating, but we can all say without a shadow of a doubt, that mistakes help us grow as a person. For instance, if you were anxiously attached to your partner in your first relationship, you obviously know what not to do now. It is essential to remember that your mistakes do not define you. They only pave the way for a better relationship.

9. You have acquired great personal growth

If your first serious relationship took place when you were in leading strings (you may take that to mean high school) and the second during your wise university years, you need not be told of the personal growth that you would have undergone between this period. But this is still pertinent regardless of your age, because having faced with all the things you don't want, you now have a clearer idea of what you do want. And knowing who you are and what you want is the first step towards acquiring it.

8. You let the little things go

Oftentimes, in our first experience of a relationship, we either tend to make a mountain of a mole with regards to arguments, or simply abandon hope and succumb to the quiet weight of a seemingly conflict-riddled relationship. When in fact, what we truly ought to be doing is refusing to capitulate and endeavouring to realise the significance of letting the little things go.

7. You're emotionally balanced

Sure, we have all been forced to contend with that familiar pang of heartache, and been through an experience or two that exemplifies it, but all of that has now made us into an emotionally mature and well rounded individual. Being in a mature adult relationship means that you understand that there are certain things over which you yield no control and thus cannot change, and are therefore, capable of fully accepting said things. For instance, if you know your partner's past upsets you, then you don't question them about it. And if you do, then you accept the answer they give you.

6. You're more pragmatic

After you have weathered the storm and endured the loss of a relationship, you are more realistic and better acquainted with the norms and rules that govern a relationship. This also means that you are privy to the fact that love is not without charge; you have to pay your way by giving a part of yourself every day.