Wherever you are right now, at any point in life, you look back at what you have been through and you just wish you had known better. So many things you would have done differently, that is the normal process of learning but is sadly, quite painful.
You are 19 and you wish you hadn’t chosen that jerk over the other person who seemed boring. You are 21 and you wish you hadn’t fallen for those beautiful big eyes that didn’t have a shred of guilt when you caught them cheating with your friend. You are 25 and you wish you should have given one more chance to the first love of your life. You are 30 and you wish you should have said ‘yes’ when they asked you to marry them.
We all carry with us a bag of guilt and regrets, we try and throw them in the deepest and darkest corners of our memories but such things have a way of finding their way back. They will keep on appearing in the form of a deception, at times as a torturing relationship and sometimes simply as loneliness.
We all have either suffered or have made someone suffer in love, it happens with everyone. There is no true way of avoiding it because that’s the wheel of life, you have to learn some harsh lessons in life but learning it the smarter way might help lighten that bag of guilt.
The only smart way is to learn through other people’s experiences. Observe the mistakes they make and remind yourself not to make them in your life. Everyone can benefit from the experiences I have had, I give you these 15 rules I wish I had known 10 years ago.
1. I wish I had known to respect myself first before I gave myself to someone
When you fall in love or even if you just really, really like someone and have started dating, you unconsciously have entrusted yourself on to them. You have trusted them to protect you emotionally, physically and mentally, same goes for them.
Thus, unless and until you don’t know what is right for you and what is wrong, do not give yourself away to someone. Whether it is physical or as small as sharing your passwords. This is the kind of mistake we make with our first ever boyfriend/girlfriend. We overestimate the relationship and let ourselves go too quickly. Remember, we are worth more than that.