10 Relationship Rules I Wish I Knew 10 Years Ago

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6. I wish I had known forgiving was a favour I would give myself

Holding on to the pain and anger, driven from the way we have been hurt, poisons us slowly. It acts like a slow poison that we, so willingly, keep inside our bodies. It silently continues to rip us apart, whereas, we are thinking it is teaching our partners or exes a lesson.

Remember, your anger will not make a point and it will certainly not teach them a lesson, when it's their time to learn that lesson, that is when they will truly learn it. If anything, there are more chances of your forgiveness to teach them a lesson.

7. I wish I had known love never requires anyone begging for anything

Whether it is forgiveness or their time, if you are begging for it than you should know there is something severely wrong with your relationship. If a person loves you and sees how desperately you want something but doesn’t give it to you, there could only be two reasons;

A. He just can’t; take it as a sign and part ways.
B. He doesn’t exactly loves you. In that case, again, part ways.

8. I wish I had known somethings are not mistakes

Forgetting is a mistake. Accidentally saying something is a mistake. Cheating is not!

Know that someone who has had the audacity to do it once can again compromise on their morals and do it again. Do keep yourself under the illusion that they have learned a lesson and would not do something like that again.

9. I wish I had listened to my mind

Sometimes the heart doesn’t want to listen to what our ears hear and doesn’t want to know what the eyes see. We often are blinded by our love and ignore what is right in front of our eyes. So sometimes, it is good to listen to your head, it could tell you some pretty harsh stuff but it will save you a lot of pain that will haunt you for a very long time.

10. And lastly, I wish I'd kept that second chance to myself

Contrary to popular belief, not everyone deserves a second chance in life. Now I'm not saying people don't change, I'm just saying most people don't have the potential to change or they just don't want to change. Some people are just so used to their lifestyles (mistakes) that they just can't stop being that person no matter how much it hurts someone. So before you give someone a second chance, make sure they don't have the potential to hurt you more than they did before.

Talk to me

What is that one lesson you wish you had gotten earlier? Share them with me in the comments below. And as always, stay blessed and keep the love alive!