I still remember the pain...
Relationships can either bring a lot of joy or a lot of sorrow into your life - there's no in between. She might be your great love or the one who ruined it all. Let's be realistic here and admit that absolutely nothing in life can be all happy-go-lucky, especially not relationships.
You're basically living a joint life with someone else. We might not like to admit this about our partner because we picked them ourselves, but life with another person cannot be all smooth. Everything in life is bound to have its up's and down's. Thus, relationships can be bumpy. Ever thought of the vow, 'for better or for worse'? Well, worse is evident!
However rough it may get, we do forgive the person we love quite often. After all, love can make us do crazy things. Yet, is love enough for us to forgive infidelity? No, ladies and gentlemen, cheating is the grave sin which breaks couples apart even if they spent decades together.
Why? Because it's a breach of trust and trust can never be regained no matter what people say. Here are some signs which indicate that your partner is cheating on you:
1- She begins hiding things from you:
Before I start this, let me add a little disclaimer. These are all general things which cheating women tend to do. I'm not saying that she is cheating (there's a pretty good chance though) nor am I saying that only women cheat (needed to put that in there for some reason).
Cheating isn't something you can just confront your partner about and they'll spill it all. The main aspect of cheating is the fact that it's a secret. If they were that brave then they would've come right out and admit that they're unhappy in the relationship and want to see other people. If you confront them about it, they'll obviously deny it. So, you'll have to rely on instincts and watch them closely when you have a gut feeling. They'll eventually slip up in some way.
The first sign is where it all begins. Odds are that if you're reading this it's probably because of this sign. Everyone has their own personal space and even your partner needs to honor that, but to go from a certain level of privacy to a new level, it gets a person thinking. They weren't this secretive before but suddenly, they're keeping things from you. At first you might brush it off as a surprise birthday or something. No one wants to think of the worst case scenario.
However, she's been secretive for a while now. She won't show you anything and if you happen to look over her shoulder, she'll act like the world's falling. Now, secrecy doesn't necessarily mean cheating..in some cases that is. They might have something else, they might not. It's a 50-50 situation at this point.
2- She's being defensive:
Personally, I don't believe that anyone who's willing to deceive someone they presumably 'love' has a conscious. Yet, they quite often do (seemingly, I still think they have no hearts). If your partner starts getting way too defensive over every little thing, you're bound to question this sudden change in behaviour.
The whole reason you feel like she might be cheating on you is the fact that she shifted from the norm and not in a positive way. She's basically leading another life and them coming together is not going to be good for her. Maybe it's her conscious or maybe it's her selfishness, I don't know. The fact is that she's going to get defensive. She'll get ready to fight at every little thing you point out. Even if you point out that she's being overly sensitive, she'll be down to a fight!
Even if your girlfriend was the type who didn't take criticism well from the get go, this is an all-time extreme even for her. Honestly, you know this person because you've been in a relationship with them. You know how the walk, talk and act. You can tell when something is up.
While I do admit that falsely accusing someone is wrong, I must admit that a once in a time gut feeling isn't bound to be wrong (or right in that case). Even if you feel like there's something going on, NEVER consult your friends immediately. That will do more harm than good.
Expressing concern on her recent shift in behaviour with ONE close friend is alright, but going Sherlock already and asking everyone is a very bad idea. Suppose she isn't cheating, then? You've already made her seem like a horrible person to all her friends. She'll break up with you just for that. It'll be better to confirm your suspicions, catch her in the act and then humiliate her.