10 Signs that you’re an Excessively Insecure Person

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You find that you’re in constant need of reaffirmation when it comes to your self-worth. Deep down, you’re scared about what other people are saying about you and you tend to forget about what you think of yourself. You’re constantly living your life through the lenses of other people because you want them to like what they’re seeing when they look at you.

Insecurity can be a very heavy cross to bear. You’re always finding yourself on the outside looking in. You find that you’re in constant need of reaffirmation when it comes to your self-worth. Deep down, you’re scared about what other people are saying about you and you tend to forget about what you think of yourself. You’re constantly living your life through the lenses of other people because you want them to like what they’re seeing when they look at you. You completely disregard your own perceptions of yourself because your priorities lie with how other people perceive you.

You know that this attitude is unhealthy but you just can’t help it. It comes naturally to you and sometimes, you don’t even notice when you’re being insecure. You can just never find yourself to be comfortable in your own skin and so you’re in a constant state of unease. You feel sorry for yourself and your ill feelings only contribute further to your insecurities. You have to be able to work past your insecurities and learn to be more content with yourself. Heed the signs and perform your own diagnosis.

Try leading a more confident life by being more comfortable with who you are. Here are 10 signs that you’re an excessively insecure person.

1. You have the undying need to control everything.

You can’t even fathom the thought of not having everything under control. You’re unsure about your ability to adapt to new situations and so you always want to have full control. You want to make sure that all variables and parameters are set to your favor so you won’t be placed in compromising positions. You know you would crumble under the pressures of surprise situations.

2. You constantly find yourself lifting your own bench.

You constantly seek validation from others and so you don’t shy away from bragging about your accomplishments when granted the opportunity. You want others to know of how great you are because you feel like their impressions are what actually validate your value in life.

3. You like to point out the flaws in other people.

You use this as a means to deflect from your own personal flaws and weak points. You are always quick to point out the failures and weaknesses of other people’s lives because you just refuse to confront your own shortcomings. In the end, your deflection does nothing to improve any of your own faults, and you’re left in a perpetual state of people-shaming.  - Continue reading on the next page