Spotting a liar 101.
Dishonesty is a cruel trait that all of humanity needs to distance itself from. No proper relationships have ever been built on lies and deceit. Dishonesty is a manifestation of someone’s lack of trust and understanding for other people. A lot of times, acts of dishonesty can lead to the victimization of individuals or even groups of people. With the amount of people that we are forced to deal and interact with every day, it can become very difficult for us to discern whether we are being lied to or manipulated with.
We have to always make an effort to protect ourselves from liars and deceivers. How do we do that? How do we equip ourselves with the skills to identify when someone is being dishonest with us? If only we had the superpower of seeing through someone’s soul or reading someone’s mind. Then we would be able to know for sure whether we are being lied to. But since the laws of physics and biology reject that idea, we are forced to work with what we have.
While there is no sure-fire way to tell whether we are being lied to, there are some signs that we can be looking out for to help us in our search for truth:
1. They refuse to make eye contact with you.
The eyes are the window to the soul, as they say. A great indication of whether someone is lying to you is when they refuse to look you directly in the eye. If you notice some irregular eye movement whenever you’re conversing with someone, then surely there’s something fishy going on.
2. They look like they have a lot of things on their mind.
Whenever you notice someone whose thoughts seem to be weighing down on them while they are talking to you, then they are probably hiding something from you. They might not be directly telling you blatant lies, but they are withholding substantial information from you; and this may be information that you need to know about.
3. They are acting nervous and anxious when talking to you.
A common tell of a liar is when they start getting very anxious when they talk to you. Anxiety can manifest itself in facial twitches, stutters, word-fillers, grand hand gestures, and boisterousness. They will try to divert the attention away from what they’re saying by distracting you with other points of interest. - Continue reading on the next page