Relationships tend to occupy the most space in your heart and in your head too. Which is why when there’s even the slightest bit of an issue, it keeps you distracted. No matter what you do, you can’t stop fixating around that one little thing you wish hadn’t happened. And once you settle it, all seems good again. This is something you’d find in almost every relationship. Then there’s the fear of losing them, which comes naturally too. But if that fear keeps you from speaking your mind or doing the things you want, then maybe you have a problem; the problem being, a codependent relationship. You feel like your survival depends on their presence, and that they complete you. You live for their approval. You think that they give meaning to your life and without them you’d be nothing.
Many of us conveniently classify all of these things as the consequence of love. We need to open our eyes to all such signs and deal with them. Being in a relationship does not mean losing yourself. It’s about building each other up.
Some of the signs of a codependent relationship are:
You feel incomplete without them
There is no one and nothing in the world that can fill the emptiness inside you, except yourself. If you fool yourself into believing that your partner is capable of doing so, you will be constantly disappointed. This emptiness might even drive you to jump from relationship to relationship, never being able to find what you’re looking for.
You don’t need anyone to complete you, find it in yourself to realize that you’re in fact a complete person on your own. The person you’re with is someone you deeply care about, but they don’t define you. No one does. You define yourself. - Continue reading on next page