A man who loves you and sacrifices his needs and desires to see you happy deserves some pleasing. Men are not that hard to please, they are swayed away by simple acts of kindness and affection. If you really love your man, you just need to get to know his interests better and find the little things that put a smile on his face. Men have varying personalities, but there are some basic things that can really melt their hearts. Beyond that thick coarse exterior, lies a fragile human being who has emotional needs that need to be fulfilled.
1. "I know you are not as strong as you try to be for me"
Let’s face it, being strong isn’t that easy. The society has brainwashed us and it has corrupted our minds. Men are expected to be strong and women are supposed to be more open to their emotions. The feeling of vulnerability and weakness transcends gender. Men are as susceptible to being hurt as women. Some men are even more sensitive than women.
You need to make him realize that he doesn’t have to be strong for the both of you all the time. You can also contribute to make the weight on his shoulders feel a little lighter. You can share his sorrows and make him realize that he is not alone in this relationship but you are standing right beside him to help him in all the endeavors to fight the upsetting conditions in the imminent future.
2. “ I’ll be there for you when you need to let out your sorrows”
Men retreat to the deepest corners of their subconscious. They close themselves up because they think their words will be judged and they will come out as some sort of weaklings. They have this mindset that no one can understand them. Actually, both men and women have this sort of mentality. Maybe he might be right but trust me, you always have to lend an ear when he wants someone to hear the screeches emanating from the void in his heart. Letting things out is always better than accumulating all of that fury inside.
At first, he might even reject your help and just walk away without even saying a thing. After spending some time alone, he will eventually come to you and you will understand why he wanted to be isolated in the first place. When your chance to make him feel better does come, try your best!
‘’I want my eyes to see beyond what they are shown,
To see beauty even in the dark,
For my ears to listen for the truth,
To hear music even in silence,
For my voice to pierce through the static of propaganda
And distractions from the pleas for help,
To disturb the hush of censorship,
Believing that my words
Have value, too.’’
3. "Maybe I know you better than you think"
Taking interests in his things will certainly bring a smile on his face. He knows that you have no interest in such sort of stuff and you still make efforts to develop some just for him. I mean, it will make his heart melt.
He might be into football or be passionate about supporting his favourite team. Sometimes, sitting with him and supporting his team in an important match will be the most adorable thing you can do for him. Men are really passionate about certain matters and when they have someone to discuss their favourite topic with; they will feel much more attracted towards them.
You need to challenge him in certain things. And sometimes, you might even like some of the stuff he is into. You might actually enjoy playing a video game with him and spending time with him in his favorite place.
When you set on a voyage to discover a person, sometimes you end up finding a home in them you always wished for.
4. “ It’s okay to be alone sometimes and discover yourself’’
Everyone needs their personal space and privacy. If you get too possessive and always want someone around, then it is deterrent to individual growth. Men need to be in their natural habitat with their ‘bros’ and enjoy themselves. This instills positive vibes in their life which also helps them to bring better things to the relationship. It’s not wrong to have a boy’s night out every now and then and connect with different people.
Humans are social animals. They need to discover more and experience a lot to grow. If your guy has started to live a sedentary lifestyle, you need to encourage him to go out and enjoy himself. There’s a whole world out there and trust me, giving some freedom only lures them to you more. Keeping someone in chains never helps!