10 Things I Learned While All My Friends Were Getting Hitched

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It’s difficult when everyone around you seems to be taking their lives and relationships to the next level. Your friends are moving in with each other, some are getting engaged, and others are already tying the knot. A few may even be having babies at this point. You start questioning your own life choices and your own direction in life; you can’t help but wonder why everyone else is moving so fast and you seem to just be stuck where you are. You choose to take an introspective approach on love and relationships. You think about it more, and you feel a little less. I’m going through that phase right now and after much introspection, there are some things that I’ve managed to pick up along the way:

It’s difficult when everyone around you seems to be taking their lives and relationships to the next level. Your friends are moving in with each other, some are getting engaged, and others are already tying the knot. A few may even be having babies at this point.

You start questioning your own life choices and your own direction in life; you can’t help but wonder why everyone else is moving so fast and you seem to just be stuck where you are. You choose to take an introspective approach on love and relationships.

You think about it more, and you feel a little less. I’m going through that phase right now and after much introspection, there are some things that I’ve managed to pick up along the way:

1. Your “type” is never set in stone; it’s constantly evolving.

Early on, during the infant stages in our pursuit of love, we have a mental checklist of everything we want out of a partner. Blonde hair, blue eyes, dashing smile. Whatever. And then overtime, we start making compromises, and our tastes start to change. I’ve discovered that our “type” of people really depends on where we are in our lives. As we learn more about ourselves as we go along, we also discover more about the kind of people we’re attracted to.

2. Getting a stable career is crucial in finding a stable relationship.

Trust me when I say that relationships are difficult; and that the difficulties are intensified when you don’t have a stable career going on for you. Having a stable job means that you’re free from the pressures and struggles of having to survive. Yes, love is important, but it just isn’t enough to sustain a relationship on its own. You need to be realistic and have a sense of financial security as well.

3. Dating teaches you more about yourself than it does about others.

Dating is essentially a human-based trial and error. You find someone, and it’s either you like them or you don’t. You mentally take note of all the parts that you like, and the parts that you weren’t interested in. And then you start seeing a pattern there that’s consistent with those people you actually liked. These preferences are reflections of who you are as a person.- Continue reading on the next page