10 Things That You Do When You’re Afraid To Love

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The truth is that you’re just afraid to fall in love. You try to withdraw yourself emotionally and socially because the thought of opening yourself up frightens you. You think that by shutting yourself in, you’re putting up walls of defense. Other people don’t understand that about you and you just wish that they would.

You’re used to being branded as an anti-social. People usually confuse your refusal to mingle as an inability to relate with others. They think you’re just that weirdo who doesn’t know how to act around other people. For the most part, they might be right, but not in this case. You’re very self-aware, and you’re not really conscious when you’re surrounded by people. There are just some things people don’t know about you and you’re often misunderstood.

The truth is that you’re just afraid to fall in love. You try to withdraw yourself emotionally and socially because the thought of opening yourself up frightens you. You think that by shutting yourself in, you’re putting up walls of defense. Other people don’t understand that about you and you just wish that they would. Here are the 10 things that you do when you’re afraid to love:

1. You keep yourself guarded by pushing other people away.

You don’t ever want to end up as someone who gets hurt in a relationship. You try your best to push other people away whenever you feel them breaking your walls down. You like to keep a fair amount of distance between yourself and other people. You don’t like it when people start to penetrate your feelings because you know that it opens you up to potential heartache. You mostly like to keep to yourself by just shutting other people out whenever you get the chance.

2. You find yourself saying no often.

Do you want to see a movie on Friday?

No.

How about let’s grab some dinner next weekend?

I think I’m busy next weekend.

Sound familiar? That’s essentially you whenever you’re presented with opportunities for social interactions. It might sometimes get to the point where your friends no longer invite you out anymore because they know you’re just going to say no.

3. You make up lies to get yourself out of situations.

You’re quite the fibber, you are. You always find yourself telling so many lies just so you don’t have to mingle with other people. You lie about your schedules, your preferences, and your availability just so you don’t have to deal with any social interactions. Just make sure that you’re able to keep up with the intricate web of lies that you’ve managed to weave already. - Continue reading on the next page