Depression is not something that people can just choose to have or get rid of.
Depression can be such a slippery slope especially for people who are generally ignorant or misinformed about this mental illness. This is a phenomenon that has managed to damage the lives of so many people, and yet, a huge bulk of individuals still carry false perspectives on the issue. Depression can be found even in the most unlikely of people and we must always tread lightly around them. We must always practice full compassion and empathy for these people. We have to be sensitive of their feelings and know that whatever we say or do can greatly affect them.
1. No one ever chooses to be depressed or not.
Depression is not something that people can just choose to have or get rid of. There isn’t a switch that you can flip up or down. Depression isn’t something that you can turn off whenever it gets uncomfortable. No one ever chooses to become depressed. Depression comes even when you don’t expect, and if you’re not strong enough, it can consume your entire being. So it doesn’t make sense for you to just tell people with depression to “look on the bright side” and expect them to follow you.
2. You can’t just tell them that “things are going to be fine.”
You don’t really know for sure. Even they aren’t certain how things are going to turn out for them in the future. You don’t know what’s going on in their minds and you can’t assume anything. Instead, confirm this uncertainty with your partner and just let them know that for whatever things you can control, you will be there.
3. As much as you want to help them, people with depression might push you away at first.
People with depression never want to infect other people with their negativity. They know that they have demons inside their soul and they don’t want other people to be affected by these demons. That’s why they will try to isolate themselves as much as possible. They don’t want to serve as burdens to other people. They think it is their sole responsibility to deal with their depression. However, you have to persist in letting your partner know that you are in it together and that you aren’t going anywhere. - Continue reading on the next page