10 ways some men badly fail in relationships

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Here are some terrible mistakes men make.

Mistakes are inevitable. And at the same time they are forgivable. But what if you don’t even know that you’re doing something wrong, or don’t realise it, or are simply ignorant. How can you apologise for something that you don’t apprehend to be wrong? Relationships are sensitive business. Men do understand that but they have these false impressions in their mind about how to handle a relationship. And by acting on them, they are damaging their relationships to the point of no return without a clue.

A few examples of such mistakes are as follows:

1. You NEED to get heard at all costs

    You’re just sitting there, hearing her go on and on and on, just waiting for your turn to speak, and some of you don’t even extend that courtesy. So even though, you’re not listening to her, she is obliged to hold on to every word you say, simply because what you say matters the most. And what is worse than pretending to be listening? All the distractions! Your phones, the TV screens or something happening outside that obviously needs your attention more than the girl sitting across from you. 

    2. Feelings are better off bottled up!

      If ever she randomly tells you how much you mean to her, that’s all on her. You are not responsible for how she feels, and you’re obviously not indebted to respond either. Because the real trouble begins when you let your guard down, let her in on your thoughts and emotions, so better keep them at bay!

      This is completely absurd. Relationships are a sanctuary, where you can share all sorts of things with each other. Your position isn’t weakened in any way. And when you choose not to reciprocate her affection, you’re only telling her that you’re not all that into her. You’re pushing her away!  

      3. Emotional intimacy is a no-no

        Let’s keep the dates like they ought to be. Getting to know each other is to be kept off the table. What in the world are you going to do about the places, music, movies or books she likes?! You don’t need to know. You’re together and that should be enough for the both of you.

        Lack of emotional intimacy creates a void in the relationship. Even though you’re together, you never really are, there is always a distance separating the two of you. If you don’t know each other, how is it going to progress? Learn each other inside out! (Gradually of course). Not only will you be closer to each other, but you will have so much to talk about and do together.  - Continue reading on the next page