How long have you been single for?
There’s only one probable reason as to why you’re reading this article. The title hit you right in the gut. Your friends have probably joked around about you being the only one in the group who hasn’t been in a relationship for as long as they’ve known you. You are probably right in the prime of your early adulthood and you’re getting pressured because you still don’t know what it feels like to be in a meaningful and intimate relationship with someone.
First of all, that’s not something to be ashamed of. There are plenty of people like you who are in this position – especially considering that this new generation of young adults seemed to be more focus on themselves than on their relationships with others. And also, everyone at one point has had the “single since birth” title. You just have to be patient enough and the right relationship is going to come along. You don’t have to pressure yourself into anything that you’re not comfortable with.
Yes, it can be a struggle having to live with being labeled as someone who hasn’t been in a relationship since birth. But at least it might help you to know that a lot of people have shared in your troubles. As proof, here are some of the common problems that girls who have been single since birth always face:
1. People always assume that you’re just lying.
It’s as if it’s a metaphysical impossibility for anyone to have been single since birth in this day and age. So whenever people find out that you’ve never had a boyfriend, they will just assume that you’re lying about it even though it’s true.
2. People assume that you’re just really religious.
As if religion has anything to do with you being single. Whether or not it does, it shouldn’t really matter to other people anyway. You’re single and just because you’ve always been single doesn’t give people the right to act as if they understand your life philosophy.
3. You find it hard to relate to your friends’ love life.
Whenever your friends start bringing up problems or issues that concern their romantic life, you find it hard to empathize because you’ve never had these experiences before.
4. People will try to give you senseless tips like advising you to lower your standards.
First of all, people shouldn’t ever feel entitled to give you advice especially when you don’t ask for it. And second, lowering your standards is not an option. The very reason why you’re still single is because you don’t want to lower your standards and settle.