12 signs it's time to let go

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Over a year ago, I was in a relationship that was going nowhere, a relationship where everyday got sadder than the last, it was a horrible feeling and I was just too scared of letting go because the process of moving on is just too hard for anyone to go through. But, eventually, it had to be done. I decided that the sorrow I'm going to go through for a few months is better than a lifetime of trauma and suffocation, so I decided to let go and move on with my life and make myself breathe again. It was the best decision of my life, it wasn't easy though. This article is for people who are going through similar situations, when they feel like they just don't know themselves anymore. These are the 12 signs to tell you that it's time to let go. Let's begin.

12. You constantly feel suffocated

Are you in a relationship where you constantly feel suffocated? Where you feel like you can't be yourself and can't speak your heart out? In a relationship where any sign of letting yourself heard has to be kept inside of you because of some fear that you've developed? I was in it once and I know how horrible it feels. You need to be with someone who can fill you with life and energy, not take it away from you. Just walk away, stop torturing yourself!

11. They're constantly trying to change you

Are you with someone who's constantly trying to change you? Who keeps nagging you about every single thing that represents the person you are and contradicts with your individuality? No one has the power or the right to change you unless you want to change on your own without any outside pressure. Change comes from within, change definitively does NOT come from love and love shouldn't change you from the person you are to a person you don't want to be. Be with someone who cherishes you for who you are and not someone who isn't happy with the person you are.

10. A few happy moments are making you stay

Are you in a relationship where you constantly have to look back at the few happy moments you two had together just to make your relationship look better than it is? A relationship isn't meant to die down with time, it's meant to grow stronger. Don't live in the past, a few happy moments that happened in the beginning don't and can't define your relationship forever and you'll slowly get tired of living in the past with the same person who's with you in the present. Be with someone who doesn't make you count the good days because you're too afraid of counting the bad.

9. You're waiting for them to change or be a better person to you

No one has the power to change you, and you don't have the power to change anyone either. If you're with someone who treats you badly and you're just waiting on them to be a better person and to change for you, don't waste your time or your emotions. A person who is naturally bad won't magically change because of your pain, I've seen only a handful of people who actually have changed because they were causing pain to their partners, most people don't and just stay the way they are because they don't care enough. Don't wait for the person to magically start treating you better, find someone who is like that from the get go.

8. You're in an abusive relationship

I was in an abusive relationship, a verbally abusive relationship. Whenever we used to fight, she used to resort to cursing and screaming, those words hurt more than physical pain and I still cringe when I think of those days. That's why I decided to move on. If you're with someone who physically or verbally abuses you, you really don't need that person in your life and you're better of without them and that negative energy.

7. You often find yourself thinking about your ex

If you're in a relationship that's so bad that you actually sometimes think about your ex being better, you're not with the right person. Your ex is your ex because you two couldn't make it work, because the truth between the two of you couldn't remain the same, but if your current relationship is actually making you think about that person then you need to find someone who can bring you out of your past, completely. - Continue reading on the next page