When you hear or read the word ‘depression’, what things pop up in your mind first? Crying yourself to sleep at night; not wanting to eat or go out or hang out with friends or do anything you once liked; wanting to sulk in bed and do nothing; feeling empty down to the marrow of your bones; anxiety; paranoia etc… and the list goes on.
But sometimes, depression is much deeper than that because at those times it isn’t easily recognized by unshed tears or feeling numb or skipped meals. In those times, it becomes a silent feathery monster growling and mumbling ever so slightly deep inside you. You may feel alone among a wide group of people with your loved ones right beside you yet so far away.
You’ll be smiling and all of sudden have it turned to a forlorn look realizing your partner doesn’t make you feel the same butterflies-in-stomach way they used to. It may hit slowly or all at once. That’s why depression is so hard to get at; it can be invisible at times. The relationships you harbor will start to feel empty too, leaves falling to the ground and turning to dust.
Maybe you aren’t truly satisfied with what you or your partner is investing in the relationship; perhaps it isn’t achieving such greatness as you expected. The reasons can be countless, the outcome same: it will make you feel depressed. It can also be from being powerless in your relationship.
In such a case, depression may infiltrate your entire emotional state. Depression can fill you up like a heavy, dark cloud, causing negative thoughts to arise. So if you feel powerless, have dark mood swings or experience negative thoughts more than often, there are some vital and basic signs that lead to conclude the what and how of your relationship inciting you to feel depressed, a prominent factor in bad relationships so be on the lookout for any or all of these tell-tale signs.
Realizing these dangerous indicators is the first step for protecting yourself. These ‘dangers’ aren’t the ultimate end of a relationship but they do compel you to take appropriate measures. Also keep in mind that depression is experienced in relationships by both men and women alike.
Power is a tricky thing; it changes people.
Some might use to it in the right way, others may not. So when you find yourself feeling “small” in your relationship, it isn’t a good sign. A parent, for example, has more power in a parent-child relationship, but as long as the parent makes use of this power to care for the child, it’s in good terms. If your partner uses dominance to somehow rule over you, it isn’t healthy and you need to do something about it. *Continue reading on next page*