Some of the worst kinds of relationships.
Sometimes, you just can’t tell how bad a relationship is, till you are out of it. But hey, we all make mistakes and it’s completely normal to go through ups and downs in ones romantic life.
To help you recognize what’s very clearly an unhealthy relationship, here’s a list.
1. The "I'm scared of dying alone so I'm okay with a relationship as long as it doesn't suck too bad"
When you're in a relationship with someone for so long that it's like dating your best friend. It's all fun, your dates are like handouts and you're basically the most badass team on the block. Your relationship? It's predictable and dependable and friendly.... But that's the problem, it's friendly. You don't love the other; you're not even physically attracted to them. It's like kissing makes the hair on the back of your neck stand up but in a bad way.
You love the predictably-existent birthday presents and the confirmed date to your cousin’s weddings and just telling your grandma that she doesn't have to worry about you turning into the cat lady from the block like your aunt Sara is so satisfying. Your relationship is a safety net and that's pretty much all it is.
2. We aren't official but we will be, soon
He just needs time. You're amazing and gorgeous and all that he wants in life but he just needs time. It's unfair to you but what about the sparks.
It's cloud nine when you're together. You laugh and have fun and spend so much time together.
It's been months, maybe even a year but every time you bring up making it official, he says no. It's sad because he can do nothing but praise you. You're physical, you're emotional, and you’re just not official.
3. The 'let’s party together' couple
It's as clear as it sounds. They're all bros and sups and let’s get turnt. He takes her to the best concerts and to jazz gigs in shabby old corner cafés at like 3 am and planning something? Not really first priority
You love him and he claims to love you but he's got nothing going on... No plans for the future, no ambition and no particular set of helpful skills.
He'll share his drinks with you, though, and that's all that matters. Obviously. He'll take you to his favorite burrito place and he'll take selfies with you while you wear flower crowns. It's pretty much going nowhere. Except the burrito place. It has to go there.