We’re all guilty of comparing our relationships at some point or another. And yes the differences can be very disappointing at times. The thing is; you just can’t help it! More so when things are a little rocky. We all know that it’s unhealthy and so very damaging to the relationship, yet we keep looking for signs of trouble even when there aren’t any.
‘Don’t be deceived by appearances - Men and things are not what they seem.’ –William Booth
Nothing is ever as it appears to be. You never know what the seemingly perfect couple might be dealing with. Here are a couple of reasons why you should get rid of this habit of comparison:
1. Not everyone’s going to give you the truth:
You know it; yet you allow yourself to believe anything people tell you. Even the people closest to you will keep the horrific details of their relationship from you. And you can’t judge them for doing so. They’d pretend that everything’s breezy just because their relationship means a lot to them and despite everything they wouldn’t want other people thinking that it’s simply no good. You too keep your struggles to yourself and smile through everything just because you don’t want to give the impression that you can’t handle things on your own.
2.Don’t be fooled by the social media hype:
Each one of you must know at least one such person who posts every single detail of their relationship on social media. Not only are they annoying (they’re very annoying!), but believe it or not they’re overcompensating for all that their relationship lacks; in their own manner. If you still choose to believe that your colleague has never been this in love with someone; it’s totally up to you. Just because they’re facebook says so; doesn’t make it true.
3. Everything happens in its own time:
So your best friend’s getting married over the weekend and you haven’t even exchanged those three words with your partner. Not to forget; many of the people you know are going to be there and to make things more interesting; most of them are married too.
But don’t freak out! You can’t rush into something like marriage. And you most certainly can’t rush into making any long-term commitments until you’re ready. You don’t need to prove anything to anyone. Allow things to work out on their own; you won’t be sorry.
4. Total waste of time!:
Wouldn’t you rather spend your time doing something that makes you happy rather than finding reasons to be depressed? Even if you have a lot of time a hand; do something productive, or spend time with your partner, or just zone out! You do not need unnecessary negativity. Regardless of what you do, your relationship is always going to be different from others. So it’s better to use your time to work on your relationship rather than worrying yourself over things you have no control over. - Continue reading on the next page