15 things that tell you you’re only settling in your relationship

So how do we really deal with this bitter truth? We decide to settle for that one mediocre romance in our life! We convince ourselves that passionate love is only a temporary feeling. And we end up saying yes to the first reasonable person that comes along and declares their love for us, without truly contemplating our own feelings towards them. Maybe you feel that staying with them must be better than being alone and witnessing all the happy couples around you.

We’ve all seen that couple who always has the most amazing Instagram pictures together, who go on crazy adventures to foreign lands, and who can’t stop declaring their love for each other for all the people in their friend lists to see. We’ve all seen them. We’ve heard their incredible love stories. And every once in a while, we’ve all ended up feeling a little jealous of them. But the truth of the matter is that no matter how beautiful their pictures are, no matter how happy they seem to make each other, and no matter how great their romance sounds, no relationship can ever be completely perfect.

So how do we really deal with this bitter truth? We decide to settle for that one mediocre romance in our life! We convince ourselves that passionate love is only a temporary feeling. And we end up saying yes to the first reasonable person that comes along and declares their love for us, without truly contemplating our own feelings towards them. Maybe you feel that staying with them must be better than being alone and witnessing all the happy couples around you.

Or maybe you think you can’t do any better. Or maybe their fancy car and well-paying job makes you dream of a secure future. Or maybe they just really love you, treat you like royalty and would do anything just to place a smile on your face. But you still feel like there’s something missing: that spark everyone always talked about, the one you saw in movies and read about in books!

And as much as you’d like to believe that this spark is only a myth created by the movie directors and the novelists to make their products a hit, the spark does exist in real life as well! It’s not something you can overlook or ignore. It’s not something that you should just stop looking for.

And it definitely isn’t something that you can fake in a relationship. If you feel like you’ve never experienced this spark with your partner, and if you were never truly sure of whether this person you’re with is actually ‘the one’, then you’ve just chosen to settle for something less than you deserve. Here are 15 things to look out for when you feel like you’re settling:

  1. You feel a sudden sense of relief when they cancel any plans

And if you’re truly being honest with yourself here, you never wanted to go in the first place. So as soon as they informed you it wasn’t possible for them to come, you couldn’t help but feel relieved. You don’t need to feel too guilty. This is something that happens in a lot of relationships, at least in the ones where someone is settling. If you feel like you have gotten to the point where the thought of meeting them doesn’t even excite you or make you feel happy for a second, then it’s definitely time to end things. You need to be with a person who feels like your top priority, and not someone you would want to ditch just because watching your favorite season always feels more enjoyable than spending your time with them.

  1. You keep flirting with other people as if you’re single

Flirting can be pretty harmless. Even someone in a happy relationship won’t stop from smiling at that cute bartender just to get a free drink. But if you’ve noticed how your flirting style and frequency is starting to reach a dangerous point, then you’re being unfair to your partner as well as yourself. Just answer this- If you had to choose between going home to your partner to spend some quality time or staying at work the extra hour just to talk to your hot new co-worker and see what the prospects are, what would you pick? If you really took more than a minute to answer this question, then it doesn’t even matter what your answer was! If the thought of being with your partner isn’t enough for you to stop checking out other options, then you’re clearly not that into them. – Continue reading on the next page

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