Hey guys, "A" here. As you all know, this amazing piece on long distance is written by a long-time fan of Relationship Rules, Krista Renee. When I wanted to work on long distance, I wanted it to really speak to the people who are in LDRs, that's when I found Krista. I loved the idea of this article being written by someone who's actually in a very strong LDR. So, without further ado, here's Krista, enjoy guys. "A" out.
You can read countless articles about long distance relationships that will have plenty to say about the pros and cons; the good and the bad will sometimes seem like they are battling for which is better. But the truth is, you are the only one who can decide if a long distance relationship is worth it. The statistics mean nothing, unless you’ve decided that it’s worth it to become one of them. I myself, though, don’t like to view myself as a statistic. I see my significant other and I as one of millions of couples who have been put through numerous obstacles, but ultimately our love and dedication overcame them all. Some people ask why in the world I would do such a thing; and simply put – I’d rather have him in my life 1680 miles away, than not at all. After all, the distance is only going to be temporary if this turns out to be a long-term thing.
I’d be lying if I told you it was a complete walk in the park. It’s anything but, actually. More like… competing in a triathlon - and the whole course is nothing but thick mud and brush. It takes trust, communication, compromise… and a LOT of work. It takes a lot of things – both physical and emotional commitment and sacrifice. You both have to be willing to put in the same amount of effort, with a strong understanding of yourself first. Think of a teeter-totter: the only way it’s balanced is if both parties are level with the ground, supported by their own two feet. Each couple is different, and the stories behind your relationship are different. Two months or two years, time doesn’t set a limit on how you feel for someone – and neither does distance. So I’ve put together a list of 20 ways that you can make a long distance relationship work.