It doesn't have to be so complicated.
When I was new to the relationship world, I once asked my mother some advice on how to find the right woman, she replied, "you need to concentrate on being the right man and stop "looking" for the right woman, when you've achieved your own goal, the right woman will come to you". That was the BEST relationship advice I'd ever gotten in my life because it's very true to everything. I thought I could work on myself later when I'm with the right person, it doesn't work that way. We only get what we deserve, and unless we mould ourselves into the best of people, we won't deserve the best. This story made me think I should write an article on simplicity and ease, so this is going to be some very sound and heartfelt advice on the things you NEED to do to uncomplicate yourself and ultimately uncomplicate your relationship. I hope you guys like it. Let's begin.
29. It all starts with you, respecting yourself
I've said this more times than I can remember because it's one of the hardest lessons I've learned in life, respect and love are two things you need to give YOURSELF before anyone else. Before you even think about being in a relationship, you need to ask yourself a few questions: "Do I love myself?", "Do I completely respect myself?", "Am I satisfied with the decisions I make?", "Do I need to change something about myself or am I fine just the way I am?". Once you answer these questions to yourself, truthfully of course, you'll be on the road to self-discovery and self-love. By the end of the journey, you'll be stronger than ever. Trust me, I speak from experience.
28. Embrace Your Flaws
You should learn to embrace your flaws as much as your qualities because your flaws are a part of who you are. Once you truly embrace and accept your flaws whole-heartedly, no one can ever use them against you in any situation. Forgive yourself, love yourself and just simply be yourself! Your life's challenges begin and end with you, and that's the long and short of it.
27. Stop Competing With The World
Take life as it comes, one step at a time. Move at your own pace and do not try moving faster to please someone else or to beat someone else. You don't owe anything to anyone and they don't get to make you change the pace of your life, so take each day as it comes and stop trying to compete with the rest of the world, it doesn't matter. Make sure to just be happy with whatever you do and at whatever pace you do it. Self satisfaction is of the utmost importance!
26. Accept others for who they are
If you expect people to accept you for the person you are, you need to do the same to them. Don't try changing people, don't point out their flaws only and ignore their good qualities in the process. Be as nice to people as you can, even if they try hurting you. If you keep smiling while someone tries putting you down, they'll give up and stop because your smile is just that much powerful! Accept the people around you with all of their pros and cons and be accepted in the same way!
25. Don't be insensitive
If you don't have the habit of saying kind things to people, be quiet instead. The real way to success isn't being cold and ruthless, it's being as kind as you can with people because acts of kindness are never forgotten and are always returned with kindness. Don't be bitter, don't be cruel, don't be rude and be kinder than you can be with people.
24. Start showing love
Actions really do speak louder than words. Yes, saying "I love you" to someone does make them really happy, but it's on another level if your actions match your words in the same intensity that they're said! Appreciate them, give your utmost attention to them and be as affectionate as you can be. Do not think that by being sensitive and emotional you will seem weak, you won't.
23. Don't judge people
Like I said, you and only you know what's going on with your life and how good or bad it currently is. Only you can really feel the traumas of your past and present, nobody can ever walk in your shoes no matter how much they try empathizing with you. So try being the same with people in return, being judgemental is just wrong. People have their reasons, people have their own ups and downs and they like dealing with their situations in their own ways. Stop judging and start accepting and loving others! Likewise, stay away from people who have a habit of judging, you don't need that in your life.