When we really are in love, the initial phase is the best part. Your feet barely touch the ground and you feel all giddy and excited as soon as you think about your partner. During this beautiful “honeymoon phase”, we often, unintentionally, avoid a few topics or maybe just don’t pay too much attention to them. Partly because we don’t think it could matter to us and partly because we don’t want a SERIOUS or CONFLICTING topic ruining this phase.
But trust me, these things that I am about to mention, need to be discussed as soon as you both feel comfortable enough to share with each other. These discussions will give you a greater insight to the way your partner acts and responds to certain things which will, in turn, help you solve the problems that come in your relationship.
1. THE PAST
The foremost thing that you need to talk about, as soon as you feel comfortable with them, has to be their past and your past. I don’t necessarily mean their exes but generally the past. Things that have affected them. We all have our demons from the past that haunt us because of which we start acting a certain way in various situations. Like this friend of mine who has been having issues with her intimacy levels. My friend, who was sexually harassed when she was young by a very close family member. For her, every time her and her partner became intimate, it gave her flashes from that incident and she just stops enjoying this act of making love to her 2 year-long partner. This often results in her partner acting frustrated and them fighting over petty things. Once she finally expressed her feelings and explained her past, he calmed down. In fact, he began to make her feel completely protected and comfortable whenever they were in bed.
Not only this, but many a times, a child who is from a broken family often becomes too quiet or outrageously stubborn which ends up in a lot of fights between them and their partners.
So, in short, it’s important to know where the damage has been done and how you could save the relationship and help your partner out.