3 differences between falling in love with another person and actually loving them

Misty Renee Posted 7 months ago
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When we are little, when we are at the growing phase of our life and when we’re just beginning to explore and learn about the things around us, there is one important thing that our parents, teachers and all the people we look up to for guidance miss out on! They forge to teach us about love- the one feeling that is bound to stay with us our entire lives in one way or another and the one feeling that has the potential to make or break our entire life.

I’ve noticed how the majority of people around me- the ones I’m close to and the ones who comfortably share the details of their love life with me- are constantly confused about whether the love they are experiencing in a relationship at a certain point in their life is going to lead to something more fulfilling and long-term. They wish to know whether this feeling where they seem to be falling more in love with another person after each passing day is just part of the initial honeymoon period (and is bound to fade away after a while) or if this love is actually real and more permanent, and if they’ve actually found ‘the one’.

I’m confident that most of you reading this article have also been in a similar kind of dilemma in life. We all want to be sure that the feelings we have right now will actually last. We all want to be content in knowing that the person standing in front of us is actually here for the long run. And we all wish to have a sure shot way of finding out whether the relationship we’re in is actually worth all the time and effort, and that it actually will amount to something in the future.

And I am here to provide you just that! Here are the three main differences between just falling in love with another person and actually loving them.

1. Desiring to have them in your life vs. desiring for them to get the complete best out of life

When you’re beginning to fall in love with someone, when all you wish to do is to talk to this new person day and night and get to know them inside out, when every single touch feels like an electrifying experience, and every word they utter causes butterflies in your stomach, it’s possible that you start to feel very dependent on their presence just so you can continue to feel extremely happy at all times. You feel like being with them is the only thing you need in life and when they’re not around, every single thing around you starts to feel pointless. While these feelings might be acceptable in the very beginning, they will turn into a problem if they continue to exist even months after you’ve been together.

In contrast to the above, when you actually love another person in a non-clingy and non-dependent healthy style, there is always an overwhelming desire inside you to make sure they’re always attaining the best and perfect experiences that life has to offer. - Continue reading on the next page