Breakups are hard, even when they’re amicable, they can be hard. However, there’s something way more harder than breaking up: getting back together. Imagine building a house of cards. It takes awfully long to build that thing, but once you do, you’re kind of proud of what you achieved. Now, in less than a second and with one swift motion, it can all come falling down. Rebuilding that house of cards won’t be like before. You’re aware of how long it takes and how easy it is to break it down, so you aren’t able to go through with it with the same enthusiasm.
People make mistakes. Those mistakes can lead to breakups. Mistakes are categorized into two types; the forgivable ones and the unforgivable ones. You’ll clearly be able to differentiate between the two when, after a breakup, you’ll find yourself questioning whether it really was the best thing to do?
The first step is always the hardest one and that is convincing them that you deserve the second chance. Here are some ways to convince your ex to let you back in or at least consider the possibility of a reconciliation:
1. Give them enough space before talking about what led you two to breakup:
Even if you two decided to remain friends and even if there are no hard feelings, the truth is that you can’t really begin the friendship phase until you and your partner have some time to think things through. Once that time period is up, you need to ease your way back into their life.
Some people would focus more on what happened and other people would try to ignore the matter, regardless of whichever one of these people you are, if you want to get back together with your ex, you need to ease your way back. Don’t bring up that matter every chance you get and don’t just randomly suggest it out of the blue. Take your time and let them take theirs.
Now, once the matter is brought up, talk everything over. Focus primarily on what led to you two breaking up in the first place. Who’s fault was it? Was it necessary? These are all the things you two need to talk through so that there won’t be any unfinished business when you two reconcile.
2. Hear their concerns and let yours be heard too:
After making sure that both of you are aware of what led to the breakup and who had a more prominent role in it (if so) then make sure that you hear whatever they think has to go different the second time around. A second chance is hard to get and important to cherish. Make sure you really listen to everything they say, but make sure that your voice isn’t muffled either.
Restart the relationship on a hopeful note that this time around, things will be different. – Continue reading on next page