Being in three fairly long relationships, I have come to the conclusion that no one person can be treated similar to the other. The things I thought ruined my first relationship were not a problem in the second. The learnings I had from my second relationship only worked 50%. So, I have come to the conclusion that you cannot always apply your learnings from your past to your present. At times, you just have to learn from your present and work on it, there and then, to save it. After observing many relationships and a few of my own, I learned that every person requires different kind of attention or a reaction from their partners. You have to judge your partner and understand what they require from you so you can give your partner that much. Here are the five main kinds of people and the kinds of reactions they need from their partners.
5. THE ONE WHO LOVES SURPRISES
We all love surprises! There is no denying that but there are some people who like to be surprised every now and then. It makes them feel special. Like for some people having a soulful chat would mean more than a surprise or a gift. I do not mean for either one to be a better choice, it’s just how people are. Everyone is different in their own way and they deserve to be cherished like that. So if your partner is the kind who is a sucker for gifts and surprises, you can get them something they have been wanting for a long time. You can also surprise them with a home –cooked candle-lit dinner so you both can spend some one-on-one time.
4. THE ONE WHO JUST WANTS AN HONEST ANSWER
Some partners just want a straight and simple answer to the whole argument. Though it might hurt you or them to speak the truth but that is all they want. They aren’t the kind who would be able to forgo things just because you brought them a gift or apologised. These are the people who need reasoning. So present them with your reasoning and your side of the story so they can finally be at peace. Only then can such a person let go of something. This might seem hard but take it this way: at least your partner is giving you a chance to explain yourself. In anger, we often lose patience and never ask our partner their side of the story, so appreciate this quality in your partner.