Sometimes, our feelings for someone else blind us into ignoring the red flags.
The relationship that we struggle so hard for is not even worth the effort and it is just a matter of time before it ends. Following are 5 reasons why it is a waste of time to fight for your partner’s love:
They do not comply with your definition of change:
Had the other person been considerate enough to compromise and mould themselves according to your preference, they would have done it a long time ago. Stretching an elastic band beyond its elastic limit always breaks it and never moulds it.
Waiting for your partner to change is as futile as waiting for the sun to appear at night. The decision for the other person to change is out of your control and is an independent decision on the other person’s part. Do not give up the control of your tolerance level and happiness by bidding on someone else’s lack of will to change.
You might change your own attitude towards their take on life but you can never force them into changing against their will. Do not place your dignity at someone’s feet while waiting for that one impossible miracle to happen.
Try once and then walk away. If they don’t try to stop you or follow you and they don’t agree with your definition of acceptance then it is the time that you realize that it was never worth the effort. You cannot make someone fall in love with you, what you can do though is let go of a toxic relationship and save yourself the emotional baggage.
If not now, then when?:
Think of all the times that they have ruthlessly broken you. Think of all the times that they have stuttered over the word ‘love’. Then ask yourself if it is really worth it to prolong your misery. Surely ending a relationship and letting go of someone who you had once planned a future with is hard but it is better to rip off the band-aid once and for all rather than to drag along the pain. - Continue reading on next page