Are you still friendly with your ex?
Are you in a healthy and loving relationship at the moment? Then that’s great! But there’s something off with your relationship, isn’t there? You love your partner very much and you feel all of that love in return. But you still find it weird that your partner is still friendly with the people from his/her past. This concerns you. This makes you nervous. You aren’t friends with any of your exes and so you don’t understand why your partner is still close with old flames. What do you do when this happens? Do you have a right to complain? Should you take a passive-aggressive approach to the situation? Let’s dive into the matter, shall we?
Traditionally speaking, when a romantic relationship ends, does that also constitute the end of a friendly relationship? This is a slippery slope and plenty of couples are always going to approach things differently when it comes to this matter. There are plenty of plausible explanations as to why some couples still choose to remain friendly with their exes. It can vary from situation to situation.
But generally speaking, it can be narrowed down to just 5 common reasons as to why a lot of people still stay close to their exes. Are you ready to dive in?
1. They want the perks that were attached to the relationship.
One of the most common reasons as to why people still stay attached to their exes is because they want to stay attached to the perks of their previous relationship. Whether those perks include money, friendship, companionship, or sex can vary from relationship to relationship. So if your partner is currently friendly with an ex, try to find out what perk your partner is after and try to figure out if you’re okay with it.
2. They are desperate to maintain control.
When a couple terminates a relationship and breaks up, then there is always a loss of control of a situation – especially for the partner who was broken up with. If your current partner happens to be the person who was broken up with during a previous relationship, then that can be a perfect explanation as to why they are still maintaining ties with their ex. This is most especially true if they are control freaks who just hate the idea of not having control of a situation. They hate that they weren’t able to control the parameters of the breakup and so they will try to compensate by maintaining the relationship.