5 Signs That You’re In An Abusive Relationship

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If any of these signs ring a bell, you're in an abusive relationship and NEED TO GET OUT!

You should be smart and mature enough by now to know that relationships aren’t always good things to have. More often than you think, relationships can be incredibly destructive to people. Sometimes, relationships can make for very traumatizing experiences for people. Sure, there are the good kinds of relationships; the ones that are dominated by love, romance, intimacy, growth, and companionship. However, the reality is that there are a lot of bad relationships too. These relationships are dominated by hatred, insecurity, fear, and control.

These bad relationships are dangerous to a human’s psyche. They especially don’t bode well for people who are physically, emotionally, and mentally weak. The most vulnerable people will have a difficult time recovering from such relationship experiences. A lot of times, people who manage to go through and survive abusive relationships won’t have the strength to pursue love ever again. They will see the whole ordeal as something messy and just plain destructive.

So the best remedy you could possibly have for a bad and abusive relationship is to get out of it as early as you can. Don’t let the emotional torments take a toll on your body and just quit while you’re ahead. Seek out the red flags early on and then make your move. Get out with your dignity and enthusiasm for life still intact.

Here are 5 signs that you’re in an abusive relationship.

1. Constant Isolation

You feel so alone despite the fact that you’re in a relationship. You always find yourself isolating yourself from the outside world out of shame. Deep down, you know that you’re not in a relationship worth talking about, and so you try to avoid any opportunities for communication with other people. You don’t want others to know how pathetic your life has become because you’re scared. You think that you’re better off suffering on your own.

2. Perpetual Fear

When you’re in an abusive relationship, you feel that you’re in a constant state of fear. You’re always walking on eggshells whenever you’re around your partner because you don’t want to set off any bombs. You fear that you’re going to upset your partner because it seems like anything you do is some sort of hate trigger. You never seem to do anything right in their eyes, and you’re constantly on the receiving end of their hate rants. Remember that healthy relationships are never built on fear and intimidation.

There should be no room for that kind of torment in a love affair. Fear is a tactic that dictators and villains use to subdue their followers. That should be enough reason for fear to never play a role in any relationship at all.

3. Physical, Emotional, and Mental Abuse

Sometimes, the signs are right there, and yet some people will refuse to heed them. The most blatant sign that you’re caught in an abusive relationship are direct cases of abuse. Abuse can take the form of many things. Sometimes it’s physical, but it can also be mental or emotional. If your partner hits you or hurts you in any physical manner, then just get out.

Don’t wait for it to happen again. Physical fighting is never a good indication for a healthy and happy relationship. Abuse doesn’t always have to be physical though. If your partner is constantly tormenting you with criticisms and insults that are aimed to hurt, then you should walk out. Keep your dignity intact and don’t ever let anyone belittle you for no reason. 

4. Self-Loathing

Another huge indication that you’re caught in a bad and abusive relationship is when you’re constantly experiencing self-loathing. You’ve practically let go of any self-worth that you had going into the relationship in the first place and all the accumulated abuse has rendered you numb.

You no longer see value in yourself because your partner is constantly putting you down. You see life as an experience no longer living because of all the torment that you’re going through. You hate yourself for the situation that you’re in and the person that you’ve become because of it. Just get out of the relationship and don’t let your partner ever take ownership of who you are.

5. Loss of Control for own Life

Decisions are no longer up to you. Time is no longer yours. Your direction in life is no longer up to you. You’ve given yourself up completely to your partner and you have no say in anything anymore. Your partner calls all the shots and you remain a spectator in your own life and relationship.

You’ve been relegated to becoming an audience member while your partner maintains star status. You have to start taking control of your life again. Even if that means breaking up with your partner, maybe it’s for the best. You can’t ever leave your entire life in the control of others. Your life is yours, and yours alone. Start taking back ownership of it.

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