6 signs you're in a terrible relationship

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Not all relationships are good or end good, a lot of relationships actually bring out the negativity in people, a lot of relationships do more harm than good.

Everything has its good side and its bad side. To focus on just one is plain exaggeration. Therefore, when we talk about the positive effects of something in life, we should not neglect its negative sides for they, too, have a major impact on our lives.

Now, let us take something pretty common, widely discussed and also greatly adapted by majority of the people today. So is it just restricted to candle-lit dinners and sweet gifts on Valentine’s Day and words of affection shared between two people and so forth?

Well, of course not. There are thorns in those roses given on Valentine’s Day too; promises are broken too; tears lather faces more than smiles do; pain and anxiety remains dominant as compared to happiness and love.

Hence, like all else, relationships too have a good side as well as a bad side. Reality is hard to accept at times, yes. But it is better to acknowledge its dual nature – the presence of bad alongside good and vice versa – if you want to grow as a person.

Not all relationships are good or end good, a lot of relationships actually bring out the negativity in people, a lot of relationships do more harm than good. Today, I’m going to talk about negative relationships, the ones where people actually start hating themselves and the direction they’re taking, some negative relationships also leave a scar on people, a scar that is never healed and always stays with them no matter where they go or what they become. This is sort of a warning article, warning signs that tell you that you’re in a very negative relationship and you need to run. Let’s begin.

6. You feel more suffocated each day

You are known by the company you keep, or so they say. If the person you spend most of your personal time with is a pessimist, it is surely going to affect you too. When you’re with someone who’s filled with negativity, it starts rubbing off on you and you start feeling suffocated because of it. Even if the person you’re with isn’t necessarily evil or bad, it still has a lot of impact on your life directly because you two share a life together. You slowly feel more suffocated each passing day, you feel as if your life has no meaning and your efforts are in vain. You don’t need that sort of energy in your life.

A relationship is supposed to enhance your life, not break your soul. If you feel suffocated, you need to walk away before it does any permanent damage. You deserve to be with someone who makes you see the sun a bit brighter, who makes you appreciate life a bit better and who just makes it worth living, not worth hating. It is very easy to see the negativity of life and reality. But to see the positive side of things, now that takes guts. So if your puts a blindfold onto your perception, preventing you to see life’s positivity, you should not be with them.

5. You feel like they’re changing you

Someone who truly loves you will never try to change you.

True love requires acceptance, complete acceptance of the person you’re with, acceptance of their strengths as well as their weaknesses. You can’t fall in love with someone with the sole intention of making them into someone they’re not and don’t want to be. “Love” means to compromise, to accept, not to reject and to complain and to change. Don’t get me wrong, some people do get changed in relationships, but it’s a good kind of change. I stopped smoking because of my girlfriend. I would never call that a bad change, it’s for my own health and for a better future with her. So that sort of change is okay, not when people try changing the person you are, that is not a good sign in that relationship.

Hearts do not measure love by time or anything, but by transformations… the good kind. So if your partner constantly tells you to not watch the sort of movies you do, or not to play football and basketball instead, or to be an extrovert and not an introvert, it is a toxic relationship and you ought to free yourself from it.  - Continue reading on the next page