There may come a time in your life when you meet this unbelievably amazing person, someone you can talk to for hours without getting bored, someone who makes you feel comfortable enough to share all the intricate details of your beautiful mind with, someone whose touch starts to feel so familiar, that one person you begin to picture the rest of your life with.

You hope and wish beyond all reason that it won’t end badly; you start to believe that it’s time for you to finally get the happiness that you so desperately desire. But things don’t go as imagined and no matter how hard you try to make it work, no matter how firmly you hold on, it ends because life just had different plans. You feel hopeless, you cry, you even question God for not coming through for you. But the truth of the matter is that everything does happen for a reason, a reason we may not be able to comprehend at the time.

So take your time, cry it out and follow these steps towards healing your broken heart:

Step1: Do whatever the hell your heart wants

If your relationship ended two days ago and you still haven’t found the will to get out of your house and face the world, it’s perfectly fine! You just lost one of the most important people in the world to you, no one expects you to forget about it and get back to normal in a single day. Take a day off from work, call your friends over and vent it all out with the biggest tub of ice cream you can find. If you feel like crying, cry your heart out. If throwing away their pictures makes you feel better, cut them up into tiny little pieces and flush them down the toilet. Do anything and everything that makes you feel at peace, without worrying about how much time it is taking or what people will say and think about you.

It’s always better to get all the frustration and anger out of your system rather than keeping it bottled up inside and releasing it in a burst of anger at the most unexpected moment.