6 things you need to stop doing in your relationship, immediately

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We need to stop making these silly mistakes.

As always, this one is going to be completely from my own experiences. Relationships are no walk in the park, you don't just wake up one day thinking that your relationship is going to run smoothly without you doing anything about it, it definitely is a constant struggle no matter what, and the struggle is well worth it. A lot of people do a lot of things that constantly damage their relationships, a lot of people don't do a lot of things that have the same effect, it's all about knowing the person you're with, knowing them and "understanding" them to a level where you minimize your chances of damaging them, you are still bound to make mistakes no matter how hard you try not to, but this article is going to help you make less mistakes. Let's begin.

6. Don't keep a list of mistakes

A lot of you would be nodding your heads in disagreement right now but this is very true to everyone, no matter how much we love the other person we are still bound to make a very small list in our heads, a list of mistakes they've made, the point here is NOT to do that. Just like you, your partner is human, and they will hurt you at some point without even realising it. The strength here comes into play when you forgive and forget, most of us say they've forgiven and forgotten but we don't, we still keep a small memory of those events hidden somewhere deep inside of our heads.

These things can go from being really small to really big. How about that one time when your partner forgot to do something you asked them to, or that one time your partner did something you told them not to? Do you know the reasoning behind it? Do you know exactly what was going on in their heads at that very moment? You don't. None of us can get into the minds of our partners and we shouldn't have to either, give them enough space and confidence to make their own mistakes without the fear of you keeping tabs on those mistakes. To er is indeed human, to forgive is indeed divine.

5. Being mysterious / keeping feelings pent up inside

As I've mentioned earlier, your thoughts are yours alone and no one has the power to get into your mind and dig out what's happening in there. You need to speak your feelings out, it's very damaging to keep something negative inside in hopes of your partner realising it on their own, because they won't. Don't make them play the guessing game, don't make them go through the fear and the constant hopes of you opening up to them someday or maybe blowing up entirely because you kept so much inside. If something is bothering you, even the slightest, talk it out. Don't worry about how big or small the issue is, it's always wise to just talk it out and be done with it now rather than having a huge quarrel about it later when they think everything is fine.

It hurts the most when you think you're "content and okay" with your partner when it's the complete opposite situation in their head. It hurts a lot when you suddenly realise that what you thought was wrong, that your partner isn't happy with you even though they looked happy and content. Wouldn't you like to just talk it out rather than waiting for a miracle to happen? Don't keep anything pent up inside, it will only turn into aggression one day.