In your mind, a long-distance relationship probably sounds like the most predictable story in the world. It sounds like an exciting fantasy that is bound to eventually end, no matter how hard two people try to make it work. I had the same opinion. I was never even the kind of girl who could commit fully to a normal relationship, let alone a long distance one.
I felt like relationships required too much time, too much effort and too much drama – the kind of drama that I definitely didn’t need in my life. And I was absolutely sure that the best thing for me is to live my life alone and peacefully.
So you can imagine my initial shock when out of all the relationships I could have had and all the people I encountered in my life, the only guy who was able to change my entire belief system about relationships was the one who lived hundreds of miles away from me. I met him at a 4-day conference in his hometown and we clicked, instantly. We had similar views, interests and expectations from life. There was never a minute of silence when we were together and it seemed like we couldn’t stay away from each other. However, I knew this was temporary. I knew it would just end once the conference was over and once we return back home to our separate lives. I turned out to be very wrong. Even after the conference was over and we were miles away, we never stopped talking. Two years have gone by now and we’re still together, more in love than I ever expected.
Now let me tell you one bitter truth: Long distance relationships really suck! Sure, you can read up articles on how absence makes the heart grow fonder and try to act all positive by looking at the exciting sides to it but on most days, when you’re sitting at home alone, desperately wanting to have that one person by your side, you’ll end up cursing each and every mile that separates you two.
But if you’d ask me the question: ”If you had the chance, would you do it all over again?”
I’d say, ‘ABSOLUTELY!’ I would never have it any other way.
But at the same time, I realize that everyone isn’t cut out for it. So if you’re at the point where you can’t decide whether to get yourself tied in a long distance relationship, here are some important truths about LDR’s that I got to learn the hard way: *Continue reading to next page*