Oh! That feeling you get in your tummy when you see their smile. The excitement of planning a surprise for your love. That surprising amount of patience you have for their hobbies and annoying little habits.
All of that, we feel all of these when we fall in love, initially, but always and almost with every one of these feelings, initial efforts and a lot of other things start to lessen or fade away. If you find yourself often staring with those little needy-kitty eyes at a couple that just can’t stop themselves from hugging, holding or kissing each other, instead of looking at your own partner. If you find yourself envying a couple who can’t get their eyes off of each other, can’t stop complimenting each other, then it is time for some DAMAGE CONTROL!
That isn’t something you should be doing if you are completely and entirely happy in your own relationship. We all want to find the one, that is all we think about when we look for a partner. Meeting them is the only thing our hearts and minds are focused on. We never really think beyond that moment, beyond the fantasies. Beyond first birthday celebrations, together, beyond the first kiss, the first time you make love, the first vacations together. We never really think beyond that or of the small things that come between even the two most perfect people.
What about the time when you will have to settle, who is going to do the dishes this time or compromising on your plans because your partner has this sudden important meeting that just can’t be rescheduled?
What about meeting your partner’s not-so-appropriate family members for the 27th time?
What about the 367th kiss or the time when he/she is in the mood for some candle-lit making-love kind of romance and all you want is to throw yourself at the bed and fall asleep?
We want a perfect forever-and-ever kind of relationship but we never plan how we are going to make it work and that is why when all the 1st, 5th, 10th are over, we start losing that special feeling of having someone so perfect in our lives. The efforts feel unnecessary and such a task.
Been there done that, that’s how we feel with every repetitive ritual, celebration or even as small as getting a rose for your partner.
But that is the whole point, if you truly love them and you both really put the effort to make each other feel the amount of love you have for each other, trust me, even the 367th will feel like the first.
To help you out with this, here are a few things.
1. Keep calling each other with random, adorable and publicly-forbidden nicknames
It keeps the relationship fun and fresh. Don’t forget that these nicknames are a way to to express your feelings. Sometimes, people forget all those mushy things they used to say to one another once the relationship matures. Say, “I love you,” often and don’t shy away from words that truly express how you feel. Reuse all those nicknames that you both used for each other initially and make new ones up.