At the very beginning, all relationships are beautiful. You meet someone, you feel this spark ignite in your heart, you get to know each other, that first touch, the first time you realize that you’re in love, you feel like you just can’t contain the excitement and love that you feel at this point.
A year goes by, and more often than not, you’ve given into the realities of life, you can’t remember the last time you felt excited about seeing your partner and most of your time together is spent in pointless unending fights.
To avoid reaching this dead end to your relationship, make sure that you don’t give in to the following actions:
Every single person has imagined what a perfect partner should be like for them. It’s fine to fantasize about getting someone like that and even try to look for those set qualities in the person you’re actually seeing. But what makes this a problem is when you’re so bent on finding the exact qualities that you had always dreamed of, you start wanting your partner to change and adjust to your expectations in every possible way.
Every individual is unique and will come with a set of good and bad qualities. The key is not to change their bad qualities with force and compulsion but try to understand and accept the reasons behind them. Love them for who they are, not for their ability to change into the person you want them to be!
Trying to make it a power game
Everyone wants love and affection but no one wants to be the vulnerable one in the relationship, the one who does not create any sort of a facade, the one who isn’t afraid to admit how madly in love they’ve fallen. So we set out to create this strong and indestructible image of ourselves, we portray that nothing or no one can affect us and if there’s ever a fight, we make sure never to admit our own mistake.
When you constantly keep doing this, then your relationship slowly turns into a battle of egos where both of you are just fighting constantly to stay on top of the other.