7 things that draw toxic people to you

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Neither is everyone the same nor are they going to treat you in the same way. Of course everyone knows that since all of us have all sorts of people in our life. There are people who want you around, people who don’t like having you around and then there are people who keep you in their lives simply because you benefit them in some way or the other. At times even when you’re aware of being used, you can’t do anything about it because it’s that difficult for you to say no to someone.

If they’re not trying to use you, they’d find a problem in everything you do. Nothing’s ever going to be good enough for them, and you never seem to do anything right. They make you doubt yourself. You never see them celebrating any of your achievements, because it’s obviously not that big a deal. All they really add to your life is negativity, and it’s your fault that you allow them to do so.

How so? Because these are the kind of people you attract. You choose who stays in your life and who doesn’t. It’s your behavior towards people in general that makes people treat you the way they do. You could be a gem of a person, but there are always going to be people who walk all over you or make you feel gullible. You’re probably too good for your own good, and that needs to be dealt with, immediately!

‘Perhaps too much of everything is as bad as too little.’ –Edna Ferber

At times, good things start becoming bad. Here are 7 reasons you’re attracting toxic people, and also a few ways you could keep them from intoxicating your life;

7. You’re too good of a listener

You realize how important it is to be heard, so you give people the attention you’d like to be returned. This may be great for the one talking, but not all that good for you at times. They’d be rambling on, without allowing you to give any sort of input. An incessant talker would ignore all the polite ways you’d try to end the one-sided conversation, leaving you no way out. You’ll have to put up with their hours of whining, whenever they feel like talking to you.

You’re not obligated to listen to them all day long! So act like it. Try getting away from them early on in the conversation. Tell them you’ve other engagements, or you’ve some things to catch up to, or just something believable. They might feel bad that you’re cutting them short, because you’re. But some things just need to be done.