How do we tell whether a love is real or not? Is there a way to gauge the validity of one’s romantic love? Is it even possible to judge someone else’s love affair? The truth to the matter is that there’s no definite way of telling.
A lot of times, people fall into the trap of thinking they’re experiencing true love even when they’re not. There are some cases wherein the blurred lines of extreme infatuation and intimacy can feel a lot like love, but it isn’t quite at that level yet. Romantic love is a phenomenon that has existed since the dawn of human civilization; it has served as the favorite subject of many of our greatest artists, poets, and musicians. It has the spell-binding effect of inducing absolute elation and joy in the hearts of many. It’s what many of us choose to wake up every morning for.
How do we tell whether a love is real or not? Is there a way to gauge the validity of one’s romantic love? Is it even possible to judge someone else’s love affair? The truth to the matter is that there’s no definite way of telling. However, by the power of observation and social analysis, there are established patterns that can give us a good idea of what real love looks like. Here are 7 things that let you know you are experiencing “real love”:
1. You start letting them penetrate the fabric of your thoughts.
At this stage, the other person is starting to establish himself/herself in your mind as a credible threat to your emotional shield. You begin to think to yourself thoughts that you’ve never had before. You have developed a sense of particular interest in this person and this is the foundation that you are going to eventually build upon in your stages of romantic infatuation. This initial stage of romantic entanglement can be particularly scary to people who are inexperienced in love or are afraid of their own emotions. Nevertheless, you rarely ever get to control when someone suddenly piques your interest.
2. You find yourself unable to control your thoughts whenever they linger on him/her.
It’s out of your control. You find yourself constantly thinking about him/her but you really can’t help it. The worst part is that the moment when they surprisingly show up in your mind, you can do very little to get them out of it. Secretly, you love thinking about them because it gives you a funny feeling of contentment and happiness inside. You start feeling giddy even though you would never admit it. The feeling is uncontrollable, but for the most part, you really don’t mind. In fact, you’re excited at the prospect of these new feelings and experiences. - Continue reading on the next page