The term emotionally dependent customarily connotes failure as an independent individual. But that isn’t always the case. We are all slaves to human nature. And even though some of us are, for the most part, strong-willed independent beings, we are still dependent upon a soul that craves human connection. To understand, and be understood. Julie Delpy really did hit the nail squarely on its proverbial head with these brave yet honest words, “I always feel this pressure of being a strong and independent icon of womanhood, and without making it look my whole life is revolving around some guy. But loving someone, and being loved means so much to me. We always make fun of it and stuff. But isn’t everything we do in life a way to be loved a little more?”
Yet it has historically been the woman who has been pegged as the emotionally dependent, dithery, supremely apprehensive and clingy of the two sexes. Delpy evidently agrees. But it isn’t the fairer sex alone that exhibits these qualities and more in an irrational manner. Men are not far behind, and can be just as high strung.
But where there are clingy, over-worked couples riddled with self-doubt, there are also strong, and independent couples. And independent doesn’t necessarily equate to reclusive and taciturn. That’s a myth created by insecure folk in a bid to ameliorate their lot. So, without any further adieu, permit me to present to you these 7 things that we could all learn from independent people in relationships.