One might think that unconditional love is what takes to make a relationship last. It does; but it’s not the only thing. You need to trust each other with some many things and understand each other. Most importantly you have to accept each other and come to terms with any differences the two of you have. Instead of rushing into a life-long commitment out of love, it’s better to make such a life changing decision rationally. Try to get to know what the two of you want out of a marriage.

Here is a list of a few of the questions you should ask your partner before getting engaged or married;

  1. How do you act when you’re mad?

For better or for worse, right? People tend to act so differently (a bad kind of different) when in a fit of rage; at times it’s even difficult to recognise them. You need to be able to put up with them even then. You need to know how to handle them when they’re just about to explode, or when you’ve had an argument. They could either give you the silent treatment or lash out or worse. It’d help you decide if you can or cannot deal with the ugly parts.

  1. What is your love language?

Everyone expresses their love differently and there is no right or wrong way. For some it could be reassurance from their partner, for others it may be spending time together, and yet for others it may be expressed through physical intimacy. All of these are different things, but at the same time, they are ultimately acts of love. You and your partner could either have the same love language or it may be different. In either case, try and understand and appreciate it. Just because they express their feelings differently doesn’t mean they love you any less.