You will never meet a couple claiming that they never argue; it’s just not possible. No two people are exactly alike. With different personalities come different opinions, so at some point or another, arguments become inevitable. This is completely normal, even healthy for a relationship. Arguments are harmless as long as they are dealt with properly and not dragged on. However, if not taken care of, even if they start with petty things like the colour scheme of your room, it can end in either one of you moving out.
Handling an argument can be very tricky, especially when you’re dealing with someone who tends to be temperamental. Here are a few things you could do when in an argument with your partner;
No matter what happens, never lose your cool, especially if your partner is all worked up. One of you has to be calm in order to control the situation and keep it from worsening. Be patient. I know it is easier said than done, but if you consider that even if they’re saying things they shouldn’t, it’s probably out of anger, and mean nothing. But then again, don’t allow them to ridicule or abuse you in any way.
Many people have this habit of giving the silent treatment to their partner in an argument. This is never the solution; in fact it may even create more distance between you two. It may come off as demeaning to the person on the receiving end, and even if they were trying to sort things out previously, they might not be as bothered any more. Despite of how tense things are, never stop communicating. Just discuss why you’re/they’re upset with a certain thing and what can be done regarding it. Work together to come up with a solution that appeases you both.