8 easy ways to deal with arguments in a relationship

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Nothing will be fixed if you both started screaming at each other.

You will never meet a couple claiming that they never argue; it’s just not possible. No two people are exactly alike. With different personalities come different opinions, so at some point or another, arguments become inevitable. This is completely normal, even healthy for a relationship. Arguments are harmless as long as they are dealt with properly and not dragged on. However, if not taken care of, even if they start with petty things like the colour scheme of your room, it can end in either one of you moving out.

Handling an argument can be very tricky, especially when you’re dealing with someone who tends to be temperamental. Here are a few things you could do when in an argument with your partner;

  1. Keep calm

No matter what happens, never lose your cool, especially if your partner is all worked up. One of you has to be calm in order to control the situation and keep it from worsening. Be patient. I know it is easier said than done, but if you consider that even if they’re saying things they shouldn’t, it’s probably out of anger, and mean nothing. But then again, don’t allow them to ridicule or abuse you in any way.

  1. Communicate

Many people have this habit of giving the silent treatment to their partner in an argument. This is never the solution; in fact it may even create more distance between you two. It may come off as demeaning to the person on the receiving end, and even if they were trying to sort things out previously, they might not be as bothered any more. Despite of how tense things are, never stop communicating. Just discuss why you’re/they’re upset with a certain thing and what can be done regarding it. Work together to come up with a solution that appeases you both.

  1. Never bring up past conflicts

Always deal with the matter at hand without EVER mentioning past issues. It only aggravates the situation. Without solving the present argument, you go back to something that you’ve already spent time on in the past. Bringing up something like that only shows that you never made peace with it even though you made them believe that it was settled. It creates a feeling of ill will in them and they not only doubt you but think of you as a hypocrite. And from that point onward, they find it difficult to believe anything you say.

  1. Forget the existence of ego entirely

Ego is so damaging to a relationship that it should be kept out of the equation. Do not let it ruin anything. There is no harm in being the first one to reach out after an argument even if you didn’t start it. If you both value your ego more than your relationship, then your relationship is bound to be doomed. What happens is, that in some made up fear of losing your position in a relationship neither of you do anything to patch things up, even when that is the only thing you both want. Consequently, the relationship is strained.