Relationships are different for different people. Everyone tells you what to do but no one seems to be bothered enough to tell you what not to do. I had a friend who just couldn’t find happiness, I felt so sorry for her. Initially, I suspected that she was dating the wrong guys, I was wrong. All the men she had been with, except a few, were prefect gentlemen. These men were very loving, kind and caring. Basically, everything a woman could ask for. I slowly started to understand the reason behind her sorrow. How can someone else bring you joy if you fail to make yourself happy? I know many of you will be able to relate to my friend. Every person hits a point in their life where they fail to find inner satisfaction. You need to work on yourself before you get in a relationship.
If you are not happy with your own self, you are not going to be happy with anyone else. You need to put yourself out there and explore your true identity. This might be really difficult at first, but you need to try. It’s harrowing to think that self hatred made my friend ruin perfectly great relationships. Harsh as it may sound, stop self pitying and start loving.
Here are a number of reasons you could be unhappy in your relationship.
1. Everyone is unique
The universe was created beautiful! Every human being is unique in their own way, even twins have individual personalities. You have to understand that people will not behave the way you want them to behave, they are not robots! You need to accept the fact that everyone is different. It’s wrong to have biased opinion about people just because they are different. Learn to accept your partner and the people around you.
While doing this, you need to accept the problems you have as well; acceptance is the first step. After you take the first step towards a journey of discovery, change and fulfilment begins.