Make love, not war.
In these turbulent times, more often than not stress takes a toll on all of us. Trying to make ends meet, raising kids, pursuing our careers; the simple act of survival is not as effortless as it sounds. This affects our mental and physical health both, in order to keep our sanity there needs to be something that provides some neutralization in this situation. Our relationships can act as that buffer, the ray of sunshine that keeps us going, but most of us seek happiness in other means, while we dump all the problems on our relationship and our relationship becomes a source of stress rather than being our safe place. Here are some simple ways you can de-stress your relationship and avoid trashing all your frustrations on your relationship, to help you avoid conflict with your partner as soon as you get home. If you are satisfied in your relationship it will eventually bring tranquility to a big part of your life.
1. Commit, commit, commit!
The emphasis is very necessary. You will pay attention to your relationship only if you are truly committed. It all begins with sincerity; commit to your partner, commit to your relationship, commit to being happy. If your relationship is going through a rough patch, don't take the easy way out by quitting, devote yourself to the well-being of your relationship. Don't just ignore it and let it take its own course.
2. Stay connected
No matter how busy your life is, give your relationship priority. Never underestimate the power of communication. Spend quality time with each other; things like goodnight kisses (Yes, a plural), walks, movie nights, goodbye hugs etc should never be ignored. Work on keeping the intimacy alive.
Don't just hear, listen to your partner. Understand what they're saying, don't interrupt or brush them off because your too tired. A simple 'How was your day?' goes a long way. But don't make it a formality, take interest and be involved with each other. If they have any concerns, reassure them and work on improving it for them. Respect and honor each other's thoughts and feelings.
4. Encourage and comfort
Life knocks us down every now and then, there is no running away from these challenges. Instead of being angry at your partner, be their support system. Offer words of encouragement, love and comfort. Don't add you to their problems by make disappointed and rude comments, be there for your partner. Accept the bad times with the good. You don't deserve the good times if you refuse to stand with them during the hard times.