Incompatibility is spreading like wildfire and it’s affecting a lot of relationships. A good relationship is supposed to enhance your life, make your happier, boost your self confidence, make you believe stronger in your own decisions and every else good in life becomes more clear, that’s what a good relationship does, a bad relationship does everything the exact opposite.
This article is going to focus on ten kinds of situations, if you’re in any of these situations then consider it as a warning and be cautious, be cautious because you may be with the wrong person. How do you know you’re with the wrong person? Let’s begin.
8. They keep reminding you of the past
You will find some people in life who will try to bring you down by any means necessary. Why? Simply put, because they’re not happy in their own lives or they envy yours. They’ll give you constant reminders of your past mistakes even if you’ve changed and are a new person. They won’t let you change, they’ll make you think and believe you can never change and you’ll always repeat your mistakes. You do not need this negative energy pulling you back into the dark times from which you came out of once. Using someone’s past to attack them is one of the cheapest of attacks and if your “partner” uses it against you, for whatever reason, you don’t need more reasons to find someone better.
7. They constantly lie to you
Bad people lie, they lie to hide their own mistakes. Bad people will lie to you more than once, either to take the blame off of their heads or to just make you think about something that doesn’t exist for whatever evil reason they have. A relationship is based on a very strong boundary of trust and loyalty. I’ve written countless articles and rules on trust and I just can’t stress enough on the topic. A lie is a lie, no matter how small. The smallest of lies leads to the biggest of mistakes. If they truly love you, they just simply can’t lie to you.
6. They don’t respect your time
Are you in a relationship where you find yourself spending all of your time on your partner and the same isn’t being done in return? Do they often tell you they’re occupied in something or the other? Do you feel like they only spend time with you when they see fit and when it’s convenient for them? Something that’s much more important than you? I’ve said this a lot of times, it’s all about priorities. If they truly love you, it doesn’t really matter how busy they are, they’ll take out enough time for you to see you smile, they will never make you feel like you’re being ignored or there’s something more important that they’re doing. I have a business, she knows about it, I still NEVER let her feel it and she gets sufficient time, because I’d rather stay single than to break someone’s heart.
5. They don’t respect your dreams
Relationships are supposed to help you achieve your goals and reach your dreams and ambitions, not the other way around. If you’re with someone who constantly tries to bring you down or tries to tel you that you have far-fetched ambitions and dreams, you’re not with the right person. The reason they’re doing this isn’t because they hate you, it’s because they hate their own lives and they never had the luxury to dream like you.
4. You feel suffocated
Are you in a relationship that feels suffocating? That feels like a trap? Like a cage? Where you feel like you can’t speak your mind? Where the thought of self-expression actually causes a shiver down your spine? I’ve been down that road. It’s a horrible feeling. It’s one of the worst feelings in the world when you have to keep something inside. Find someone who lets you speak your mind and still loves you for it.
3. They want to change you
I’ve talked about this before too, nobody has the right to take your individuality from you. You are an amazing individual, you are beautiful and perfect in your own way and design and no one can take that away from you. Your partner should love you for everything you are and should never try to change you into something you’re not. If you’re with someone who constantly tries to mend your ways or to change you, find someone who appreciates you and cherishes your individuality.
2. They’re sucking the life out of you
No matter how positive of a person you are, if you’re with someone who’s very negative and evil, they’re going to rub off their evil and negativity on you. You’re slowly going to start thinking like them and talking like them. You’re going to go from being a happy person to someone you would never want to be. If you’re in a relationship where you feel like your energy is being drained from you on a daily basis, free yourself from the torment.
1. They disregard your abilities
Someone who truly loves you will always strengthen your abilities and make you a stronger person. A negative person will slowly take your abilities away from you, they’ll make you feel low about yourself, they’ll make you feel like you don’t amount to anything, you don’t really that kind of “love” in your life, you’re better than that. Be with someone who makes you feel like you’re special in your own way, because you are. My girlfriend tries her level best to make me feel good about the things I do, about the things I love, about my abilities and about my life in general, so for my birthday, she actually hand-painted a life-sized Relationship Rule for me. I couldn’t have asked for a better present. I’m not going to lie guys, I cried. Check it out.
Share your experiences
Have you been in similar situations? I love hearing from you guys, please share your experiences with me in the comments section below. As always, stay blessed and keep the love alive.