We live in a world where society has set an impossible standard for everything. Before we even get into a relationship, we already are scared of a thousand things because we've seen something in some movie, we already have our bar set too high because of something someone told us or because of what society tries to portray as "perfect". What's important in life is to grow at your own pace, to learn at your own speed and to expect at a humane level. Here are nine relationship truths every woman should know.
9. Nothing is "forever"
There is no such thing in this world that lasts forever, love is one of those things. Nothing is rock-solid, even the strongest of foundations become weak in time. You need to understand and prepare yourself for the worst, anything can happen at any given time. People lose their lives, people die of starvation, and we cry about not being loved enough by someone. What's important here is to love yourself as much as you can and find complete happiness in that state, and then move on to a relationship. If and when you come out of that relationship, you'll still be stronger than ever and won't be crying about it even after months.
8. You can never change anyone
In this lifetime or the next, you just CANNOT change anyone no matter how hard you try. People have their own individuality, trying to take it away from them is highly unfair to them. You need to learn to accept the person as he is, not to change him to your liking because that's not going to end well for you. He's going to sound okay with it at first but he's slowly going to start developing a lot of hatred against you and one day, when he's had enough, he'll explode. Never try changing anyone.
7. No one can change you
Just as you can't change anyone, no one can change you. No matter how much they try. You can't even expect anyone to change you, for better or for worse. Only you have the power to change yourself, nobody else holds that over you no matter how much love is involved in the process. If you don't like certain habits about you, don't expect anyone to save you, save yourself and ask for support, support will always be there for you as long as you're willing to work on yourself to begin with.
6. Being supportive and being suffocated are two different things
You need to know where to draw the line between being supportive and being suffocated. Sure, support your man as much as you can, but up to the point where you feel comfortable about it and it doesn't start having any negative affect on your life. You can't compromise your own well-being for the happiness of your partner, that's not a relationship, relationship works both ways, not when you're someone who's miserable while your partner is as happy as ever.
5. Everybody lies
It is bound to happen, we are all human and we make mistakes, we are made to make mistakes, none of us are perfect and none of us are saints. People lie, accept it, just because you think you have a special bond with your man doesn't mean there isn't going to be any negativity between the two of you. You two will lie to one another at one point in the relationship. Don't get me wrong, sometimes people lie to save the relationship, and it's probably for the better. But the important thing to remember here is to not keep unrealistic expectations from your partner, he is human, so are you, neither of you are saints. - Continue reading on the next page