We all have good and bad times in our relationship, but there are times when things get out of our control and we just stand there clueless, not sure whether to go through it or away from it. When we are finally out of a dead-end relationship, we often wish we could have seen the signs, but only a few of us can see them during the relationship and not after it, we are oh-so-blinded-by-love, after all. If any of these signs are persistently a part of your relationship, you have a serious problem to consider.
9. You fight more often than not
Having fights every now and then does not signify an unhealthy relationship, they are a part of human interaction and how we choose to resolve conflicts. What should ring a bell is, when these fights become so frequent that it is actually surprising when a day goes by without fighting, when fighting becomes the only way you two communicate, when the fights get so gruesome that they go far enough to involve verbal or physical abuse, no apology can ever make up for this hurt and disrespect. Nobody deserves to be in a negative, draining relationship. Your friends avoid hanging out with you guys as a couple because you have turned into an ‘always fighting’ duo, you radiate negative vibes. If you find yourself always engaged in an inconclusive fight, over and over again, be it petty issues or serious ones, it’s time to take yourself out of the vicious cycle.
8. You feel like you don’t know the person
Nothing is more important in relationships than communicating with each other, it is a way to create a better understanding, it brings you and then keeps you closer. If you feel like you can’t tell your partner how you feel or what you want because they won’t sympathize, if one or both of you are stonewalling the other, you don’t even know where your partner is on a weekend and you don’t even want to know, then something is terribly wrong with your relationship. Another red flag is, when you two don’t talk about the future, if you guys have been together for a while and never discussed the big picture, future family, goals, careers etc, that’s because you either don’t see them in your future or simply don’t want them to be a part of it, if you fail to communicate on such basic levels then it’s time to stop wasting time on the relationship and let go.
7. Avoiding contact
When you are in a happy relationship, you would want to spend more and more time with your significant other, you enjoy their company and actually miss them when they’re not around- not the opposite. If you find yourself avoiding your partner, when you would rather work over time than spend time with your partner or simply stare at a white wall than be in their company because of how unhappy you are around them, realise that your relationship is going down the hill. – Continue reading on next page